Turn Your Pain

We can so often overthink what we are supposed to be doing in the next season in our lives (or now — inside THIS now of 2020), when so much of it is right in front of us, inside our life experience.

Your professional experience is part of the puzzle, but is not all of it. 

What have you experienced in life?

There’s been joy. 

There’s been pain.

Both will be folded into what you call work, however, one has the power to truly humanize what you do for “work” and make you feel even more on purpose and that’s the pain…

How can you turn your pain into (a) purpose?

Once we transformed it, we are meant to give from that fountain of wisdom…are you folding it into what you do?

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life.

Life is good!

Choking On Salmon & Eggs

Today, inside my REIMAGINE Women’s Council, the topic was leadership.

I had a less than elegant start to the morning just 10 minutes before my clients popped on.

Using five or six different devices, the internet, then zoom and then the recording function were not working (in that order). And in the rush of it all, I started to choke on the last of my my salmon and eggs and couldn’t stop coughing for a couple minutes. 

It was 11:57am and our call started at noon.

With 30 seconds or so to go, it worked, but not before having to move from my standing desk in the living room to the office, not knowing where my papers were that I needed for the call. 

Between my assistant and Josh (another positive to him being home all the time — thank you JHM :), I finally saw my face on the screen inside the zoom room, recording function now working, and began to teach…but not before I let myself be student.

I didn’t try to pretend that everything had been fine, instead, I let them in on what had transpired. All of it, as I always do. The salmon and eggs part bringing a smile to my face and theirs — 

Leadership is grace under fire, we hear, but what does it mean?

I think it means parking our sh*t SO we can show up and do the work we’re meant to do (my bff Zsuzsa and I talk about this parking what feels like daily). 

Grace under fire doesn’t mean pretend, it means you keep going by parking the mess. You don’t let the mess get the best of you, YOU handle the mess, but only after you show up with purpose and honesty. 

So many of us walk around hurting others because we, ourselves, are hurt, tired, rushed or stressed. 

We’re not able to park our sh*t and then we wonder why it all feels sh*ty…why our relationships or conversations are amiss.

Again, parking our stuff doesn’t mean ignore it or stuff it down — but it does mean asking ourselves, what’s most important right now (and then using the tools we hopefully have in arsenals to calm the nervous system to know the answer, without hesitation, and to do the thing!). 

Is the drama of this or are the people and showing up/showing up honestly for them more important?

This is me doing yoga after our two hour REIMAGINE session. Ten minutes before this shot was taken my assistant called to let me know that she logged into our newsletter platform and that everything was gone — all of our newsletters and every subscriber from the last nine years.


I didn’t jump up and try to fix anything, there was nothing to fix…I did, however, finish off my savasana, breathing and accepting what potentially was. Continuing to take care of ourselves is crucial in times like this. 

As I laid there I also thought, ‘there are worse things’ and this I know well. It helped to relax me even more. 

I came downstairs to check our platform and account out and saw the issue. Operation: everything found! 

Leadership is not about a pretty picture, though, again, we are led to believe it is. 

And, what we’re all living right now is not that either. But what helps us get through, beyond parking our sh*t, if even a little bit more, is to do the things that bring us some ease and joy right now (what calms you? Do that EVERY DAY), whatever it is, all so we don’t infect others with “our stuff”, with our mess. 

When we give our mess to others by way of our negative attitude, harsh words or off-putting energy, it only stays that way ~ a mess. 

Our husbands, kids, grocery clerks, clients, nor assistants need more mess (remember, they’re holding their own), we ALL need more of this.


Let’s be it. 

Life is good,

This Challenged Me (hello to the real & proverbial mountain)

For hundreds and hundreds of years, the vision quest has pointed to giving away anything you receive while you’re out there…

A year ago this week, I was nervously sitting in the passenger seat of our SUV driving up to mine.

I had never felt this rare mix of what I can only describe as healthy fear, excitement and insert word that may or may not exist that resembles excitable terror (I appreciate a good challenge).  

But the hardest part wasn’t, in fact, the nots ~ the not eating, the not having shelter or the not having company…

It was leaving the unique space created for myself while out there (with the real quest, of course, being finding exactly that space in the real world even more).

As it has for many before me, the vision quest exposed each of my bodies (physical, emotional, spiritual, mental) more than most experiences have and, as a result, it was one of the top best.

All in all, what the quest shared with me was about the ability we have to return to our own inner safety and to a calmer nervous system, no matter what is going on in our lives or what or who we have or have not.

I fully (with all bodies) enjoyed my time up there, in my journal, naming it an honor to have experienced. It was exactly that.

All in all, the ability to return to that gorgeous mountain in heart and mind is and will always be one of the grandest gifts of my life — the ultimate reminder of true freedom and independence and of being the driver and decider of your life. For more like this, check out these hashtags: #visionquester #brandofwoman #creativeheroine

[Photo: testing the pack July 5, 2019 that would see another 30 pounds added to it, not sure now how what I took weighed so much as most all creature comforts were left at home for my husband and son ;)…]

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand.

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good,

Michelle Ghilotti
Activator, Brand Strategist & Experience Creator

A Dream I Had (more about it)

A while back I sent you an email with this phrase:

It’s only when you show who you are when more is revealed.

You may or may not remember it, but I wanted to send it through again with even more explanation…

I had a dream many years ago (half awake, half asleep type “dream”) and I heard a very quiet voice say that:

It’s only when you show who you are when more is revealed.

I had never had anything like that happen before or after.

I got up and in my half daze, grabbed a Sharpie (I keep all kinds of pens at my bedside) and wrote it down. To this day, I still have that paper near my bed…

To me, it means many things, but one of them, maybe the most important, is that one of our greatest life purposes is to be more ourselves, not LESS. When we do that, especially as female leaders building businesses with purpose, the more that our dharma/our purpose (or next right action, as discussed at the LIVEN retreat on 6/6/20) is revealed…

Said another way, tell your story, use your life experience, express your full authentic personality (even and especially in business) — fold ALL of you into your everyday life and work in the world, and as you take each step, know you will BE exactly where you need to be (and wanted to be) because committing to the more full expression of self is the way to get the answers we need most about it all…

As I’ve worked and lived this even more in my life and work since that early morning, I can say it’s absolutely true! Keep following the big breadcrumbs when you follow what’s true for you and what genuinely and naturally sparks your soul…


How can you be more unapologetically you in business?

What would genuinely (with less effort) be next for you if you listened to what sparks your soul currently?

How can you move to value and express your life experience as much as your professional experience and infuse more (not less) of your authentic personality into your brand/messaging?

Feel free to take those questions for a spin onto paper. And, if you’d enjoy coaching support (inside a fun group of like-minded women) over six weeks this Summer to show you how to authentically message your business (new or existing) AND MORE, consider joining REIMAGINE: Realizing New Futures for Our Business/Purpose Project and Brandwww.michelleghilotti.com/reimagineregister (scroll down to the business and brand strategy topics and details).

Also, note that MGI is offering REIMAGINE at a for such a time as this tuition rate of $197 vs. the typical rate for our six week programs of $997. We genuinely wanted to support you if you are in need of coaching and accountability to get your work out into the world…

I wish for you peace and the joy that comes when we truly integrate more of all of who we are into our work and messaging!

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand.

To the best of the rest of your life!

Michelle Ghilotti
Activator, Brand Strategist & Experience Creator