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Creative Heroine

Creative Heroine

After my brother died in a car accident at 22, I started calling him the “fireplace” of our family (exactly what he was). 

Whatever he did (and, more than anything — who he was) brought us all closer together. 

We all wanted to huddle around him as a baby/ toddler (he was 16.5 years my junior) and on it went like this until University of Miami graduation day, one day before he died.

Creative Heroine

The Creative Heroine event was inspired both by loss, as well as by joy (gain!), and as much by the men in my life (artists like my baby bird Dino), as by artists like Frida Kahlo and modern-day artists aka entrepreneurs pictured here such as Arlan Hamilton, a venture capital fund for good that invests in “underestimated founders” (women, people of color & members of the LGBTQ community), Christina Rasmussen, intervention counselor and author of Second Firsts, introducing a new model of grief based on the science of neuroplasticity, changing the way we see our lives after loss) and Paige Bradley, sculptor known for bronze sculptures with emotional qualities, creating pieces so we could SEE ourselves in the art — all who, like many of you reading this, have persevered after unique trials.

Those trials inspiring their greatest creations that inspire us to evolve, perhaps more quickly…

These women/people are representative of the “fireplaces” of our communities today who, through their art, bring us together to talk about the most important topics of our time.

How can we use our creativity for great good?

Creative Heroine

The wound is where the light enters you (Rumi quote) ~ heard that high truth? That’s Paige’s “Expansion” sculpture to a T (photo below).

To all people of deep life experience, toiling away in such honest, intentional and creative ways, THANK YOU. 

And to my roommate/bff Whitney Fusion from college in the third to last photo, thank YOUUU…you have been loyal and ever-present in all moments, especially through the days of tragic loss. 

We could say there’s an artistry to being a good friend. 

Creative Heroine

It doesn’t come easy to most, yet there are those chosen few (who our grandmother said we would be able to count on one hand at the end of our lives) like Whitney who it does come so naturally to (xo). 

To the people in our lives & communities who do what they do, and, most importantly, BE who they BE and, as a result, change our world, day and outlook, what oh what would we do without you? We wouldn’t!

Creative Heroine

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good,

Date Night

Date Night

I took myself on a date recently on a Saturday night. Hot date. Planned for two weeks. 

As partnered people, we have to work harder at this, but for women especially, it’s vital to keep reminding ourselves that although being in relationship is damn amazing, it’s really us who brings the magic and the party within. 

Yes, we’re social creatures and ‘need’ or better yet, want others in our lives, but we know all about that…society and hormones teaches us to hook up and be connected and be in relationship when we’re quite young (it’s natural and normal), but what it does not teach us that we need to teach or remind ourselves (and our girls, nieces and friends, young and old alike) is how to enjoy your own company and how oh how to be alone, but not lonely. 

You can be alone and not feel lonely.

Date Night

More than the dinner or the exercise of doing special “out in the world” things (usually reserved for couples), the important part I find myself sharing with friends, clients and myself, alike, is always: your partner, though an amazing part of your life, isn’t ever the one in charge of your peace or happiness, it’s you in charge of it and that’s awesome (it’s awesome to be in charge of what makes us feel full — something I did not know the way I know it now in my teens, 20s and early 30s).

So, insert your own “here she is” and know that, yes, there you are — for you! You *got* you.

Date Night

You/we can be these individuated, joyful, self-fulfilled women (=sexy) who do more than take ourselves out, but know ourselves from deep within to then bring THAT to our partnership (see the above photo for the one I really, really enjoy :).

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good.

Death — A Living Experience?

Death — A Living Experience?

How can we make death a living experience?

Speak about them, do things in honor of them (and speak and speak and speak about them and honor and honor and honor them as much as you want or need to, even if others think you need to be ok by now or be “further along” because it’s been however long)…

Your heart is your only timeline and the medicine is or can be the ritualistic nature of the honoring that feels good to you (and that inspires you to feel).

It/this/all makes me feel closer to them (*reminds* me I’m still close to them — and heals).

Speaking of honoring them — do so, too, by being the reason someone who might feel like they’re dying inside (for whatever reason — there are many), smiles or thinks they’re worthy and / or feels treasured, whether they be stranger or family member.

Death — A Living Experience?

We planted trees in Africa this past August in honor of my Mom & Dino and, as these special moments always do, it fulfilled us and gave us purpose, furthering healing (last photo is the night Dino died).

The land in Africa gives you life (helps return your life back to you in so many ways (it’s how I have felt during both trips there)— do visit in this lifetime if you can), so to return some of that life back to the earth *for* the earth in honor of our beloveds is full circle.

This is the full circle…

Life.
&
Death.

As we ask in conscious dying coaching work, how can we make death a living experience?

This is just one (or two) of the way(s)…

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good!

Mama Heart Strings (We All Have ‘Em)

Mama Heart Strings

This is how every parent must feel after getting through another big moment with their kid(s) ~ for us, six months plus of planning for our Nolan’s Kenya trip/conservancy work and getting him back safe (we *all* got back safe last month)…

A moment of relax and enjoying the fruits of your labor (I’ve caught a glimpse of what’s up ahead, #collegeprep, #emptynest).  

I’m not ready? Are you ready? WERE you ready?

What a FUN life continuing to watch him move about the world AND boy does this all pull at the mama heart strings. 

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good!