Super Connected Yet Super Free

Unconditional love means promising to love someone without the condition that they not fault or fumble to be worthy of a tender, loving care…

The type of love that won’t so easily (like the wind or tantrum-like whim) be snatched away every time something doesn’t go your way (a big one for those of us parents as many of us were raised inside this unhealthy way of being in family…you’re “good”, so I’ll be nice to you or you’re “bad”, so I won’t speak to you for two days…there are so many wounded children acting as both wives and husbands — and as parents). 

Unconditional love is a promise to be there through it all, AS WELL AS as a promise to unconditionally at least like, if not love yourself enough, to do the work on YOU to even be able to whisper that you can love someone through their blunders…to then, ultimately, experience a healthy, fun and grounded in truth partnership.

This is the kind of relationship that ultimately makes each of you feel super connected and, at the same time, super free.

I love feeling super connected and, at the same time, super free. 🙂

You can continue to wildly grow together if the roots beneath ground are reaching for one another, equally through drought as through abundant times, and that happens as a byproduct of each of you tending to your own soil (for when we don’t, we lash out and take things away, namely our love, when love, like a root, is not that easy to take away!). 

Unconditional love is a free flow process that needs to F R E E F L O W.

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good.

Nurse Shoes

Nurse Shoes

Mood of lightness and imperfection…

We had some of the best years as a young family in and around Guadalajara in Mexico.

We helped Nolan (3.5 or 4) get into his car seat one day en route to the airport to visit the ruins at Teotihuacán and realized only at the airport that he wasn’t wearing shoes. 

Nurse Shoes

I saw these pictures a few weeks ago and the laughter was the kind that made me tear up immediately (not all photos are of our trip to Teotihuacán, some here are of other times in Mexico). 

I went over to Josh and Nolan and showed them last night and they enjoyed the memory, too, with Josh saying, “oh yes, that’s when we bought Nolan nurse shoes.” 

Now, I’m showing you. 

Let some light in and show your imperfections 😉 

You’ll connect deeper with people that way, some of the most important people being the kids you forgot to put shoes on oh so many years ago…

😘👟🧑‍⚕️

Nurse Shoes
Nurse Shoes

The last photo is after I jumped into a pool fully clothed while at a birthday party outside Guadalajara, thinking Nolan’s pool floaties weren’t floating when in reality, he and the floaties were just fine. 😉

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good.

Life Stories (Gooooodbye!)

Life Stories (Gooooodbye!)
With as much grace as possible, you may now lay your body (and your disempowering life stories) in the final resting pose of śavāsana. 

🥱💪🏽🎆

Say goooodbye and thank you to 2021! What are you laying to rest from this last year??

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good.

What 11 Days Taught Me

What 11 Days Taught Me

I recently spent a glorious 11 days on my own, in and around the city I live, while one husband and one son traveled overseas on a guys trip. 

I loved every SINGLE minute of living the intentional 11 days (both personally & professionally, I only did what was a hell yes and I made time for retreat and spontaneity, my lifeblood). 

While they devoured time, I did, too.

What 11 Days Taught Me

To me “higher love” back when I first heard the song with my Mom in the late 80s was about finding a boy and keeping him (boy crazyyyy ;-)…

Though I saw my Mom protect time for herself and I so felt her individuality, I still thought of a boy completing me (hinting at a more “complete” happiness?). 

Now, yesterday, today and for some time now, I know that this “higher love” is about something more elusive that society doesn’t teach us ~ it’s about enjoying who we are, with or without company or a wedding ring (a ring I have consciously decided not to wear beginning eight months ago ~ it had felt like a symbol more for society than for myself, plus I belong to me plus plus our relationship needs not a ring to be a healthy or whole one)…

It’s about taking care of ourselves in a new, more honest way, again, even though the thing that society *does* teach us is to forgo that impulse and self-grounding and, instead, feed everyone else’s needs or expectations of us as a woman, partner or mother. 

Steve Winwood wrote it & James Mcmorrow sings it (partial lyrics below):

🎶”Think about it, there must be higher love
Down in the heart or hidden in the stars above
Without it, life is wasted time
Look inside your heart, I’ll look inside mine
Bring me a higher love
Bring me a higher love
Bring me a higher love
I will wait for it
I’m not too late for it
I could light the night up with my soul on fire
I could make the sun shine from pure desire
Let me feel the love come over me
Let me feel how strong it can be…”. 🎶

What 11 Days Taught Me

We can not love others without self love.

True love you can keep is you and me, ladies, W I T H ourselves, truly w i t h ourselves ~ when we’re doing this, the diamond 💍 within sparkles most bright. 

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good.