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Are Your Strengths Your Weaknesses?

My strengths (many of them) are also my weaknesses. Ask Josh & Nolan.

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Part of what having a sense of self or a deeper hold / grasp on our [true] identity (who we are without all the chatter, hurts or doubt) is having a sense of humor around both those strengths and weaknesses…

Having and keeping lightness is keeping what I call neutral about it all.

Not overthinking either of them, as in, not overthinking or patting ourselves on the back around how great we are because of what we can naturally do, nor thinking down on us because of the parts we feel more challenged by is having a sense of ourselves that is most observer than critic.

Knowing who we are (at the core core core) is felt or exercised by being more of that ~ more observer vs critic…

The observer will still tell you where you need to go and how you need to grow, whereas the critic will beat you down so that neither are in view (the opposite of growth, death).

Also, observation (distance) *and* neutrality are best friends with peace which is always the more helpful and healthful state ~ a feeling of grounding (just like a tree we need to feel more grounding on the daily, so we can root — or grow — up).

Being the observer of our strengths and weaknesses (or how the former can also BE the latter 😉 allows us to really hear people when they have something to say around how what we said or did affected them…and do or say something different next time (~> growth/betterment/development).

Observation and peace allows us to become more aware of who we are at each moment which then usually presents us the opp to change or “fortify” our weaknesses, knowing, of course, that we’ll never be done with that fortifying…

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I find it both funny and reassuring that we’ll never be done. None of us (that’s the reassuring part).

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good,

Don’t Wait Until Later

I have an idea! Let’s not leave anything until later.

Say it now, do it now, rest now, speed it up now. All of what you know (you know!) deep down you need most now.

And for those who it makes sense for…get to that passion project, business creation and/or life fulfillment strategy nowww.

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good.

An Intentional Life

A cannon just above my head in the photo wasn’t the intended vibe, but this is: an intentional life.

What do you intend to *feel* in your life on the daily? Create that within yourself. Search out consistent individual experiences, personal development and honesty practices (underdeveloped in women) that cause the intended feeling to erupt out of you.

My answer in a *feeling* is always peace (always). To me, if we feel peace inside consistently, we can touch happiness and joy and elation way more easily. It’s what I want most in life (for all, really), so I do a lot that brings that out or in…

It’s “work” (if we want a fulfilling, fruitful life, we can’t let our guard down;-), but it’s worth it.

Don’t look to others to do “it” for you; to find or BE the peace or happiness or balance for you.

My peace (how I experience it, how I enjoy MY life) = it’s really all I have control over because, in the end, renegade photog husbands will do what *they* want to do. 😉

[p.s. there was life in the form of rabbits (many) hopping around the military museum in Paris!].

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good.

Creation of Peace in the Home

What I’ve always told those who know us well (and those who don’t) is that our house is filled with peace (though joy and/or happiness is a consideration, I’d choose peace over all the other choices).

To be honest or fair, as much as this is a comment on how our personalities mesh or flow with one another, it’s also a comment on my intentional creation of said peaceful home (parents, I know you understand).

It’s what I deliberately set out to create.

And, early on, speaking of deliberate, I knew or could sense, too, that we would be a family of three — or that I only wanted one child (how very un-Latin of me! ;))

…and a family of three we stayed.

It was a loving and beautiful decision for us. It’s been the best (for us ~ just as others’ decisions feel so to them, not to say, of course, that all decisions are those we’re happy with).

But as women/moms, we’ve been given a deep sense of intuition and knowing for a reason…to follow (~>shows us to the life we’re meant to live).

My gut knew…one child. Deep peace in the home. Focus on that.

…do what instinctively feels right for you and your family, even if, in our case, it meant “leaving Nolan without a sibling”, as some have said. But also — what is he receiving and has he already received from THIS experience?

Question everything until you land on you.

{Back to peace} — we create what we want to be part of AND we create what we didn’t feel or experience to the degree we would have liked B E C A U S E we SO want our kids to have it (again, I know you get it).

Thankful today ~ and all days ~ for my motherhood which reflects back to me in such full determination and care, so I can then continue to give those things right back to my son; my wish let loose on the world!

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good.