Ciao Roma…It’s too easy…
It’s too easy to say (or believe) that someone’s response or reaction to you is ultimately about them (sure, if someone is triggered by you sharing your truth or unapologetic expression, it may be about them (maybe), but if a client has disappeared, not paid you or someone, anyone, hasn’t made “good” or completed their part of an agreement or friendship, the most empowered thing besides having a courageous conversation with them is taking a look at yourself).
I’ve found it to be the most rewarding part of, not only my work supporting others, but in doing every day in my own life.
Oddly enough, I see/hear the above being shared as a blanket statement in the personal development industry (and see it in my feed almost daily), enough that I’m compelled to share…
To live a life guided by these sound bites or advice will only continue to bring you more of the same pain (remember that life is like a spiral staircase ~> whatever you don’t learn or change within yourself in this one uncomfortable moment in front of you, will continue to wrap around to find you once again until you finally learn/grow from it).
In other words, no spiritual bypass will ever bypass the real questions to ask yourself or the things to take responsibility for, for real growth.
Sure, it may be part theirs.
And, if you’re in it, experiencing discomfort from the situation or attracting it into your daily experience means there’s a part of you that’s also responsible, energetically, or as a result of your actions or inactions.
Again, we know this but don’t always act on it…
When you start asking “how did I contribute to this situation?” at each turn of the ride up the staircase is when you’ll find that your entire life, prized relationships or simple, everyday interactions with other humans and level of opportunity open up, like double French doors, open up.
You will always find something YOU can do, say or show better when you ask this of yourself and when you ask more of self, period. This you can control: your own awareness, responsibility and, ultimately, your own growth and enjoyment of life.
After you do your homework, you *may* still want to have a courageous conversation with someone around their part in it…maybe. Or, you’ll find that so much of the power of experiencing different is and comes from you, that you’ll decide to move on…
Ultimately, you’re the person you’re able to change, control and recreate or reinvent which is brilliant.
Live for it, live for you…
The sexiest thing you’ll do this Summer is not lose the weight, get flatter abs or take the fancy trip, but lose the baggage you keep adding to your life when you believe it’s about someone else changing for you to be at peace or well-adjusted.
You’ll be able to stomach SO much more on this trip known as your lifetime when you take regal responsibility for any part, tiny, small, medium or big in all pain present, as much as you do for the ridiculous joy in your life.
We get to do the hard things to live an easier, breezier life…
Enjoy your business, enjoy your life!
Life is good,
Michelle Ghilotti
Couture Brand Creator & Success Coach
p.s. Did you receive our email re: the low-ticket programs we are looking to launch in the next six months? If you did or didn’t, kindly DO write us back and let us know — if you were to spend $97-$297 on programs to jumpstart you in some massive movement around your business or brand growth, what 1-2 things specifically would you need MOST support around? We’ve heard from some of you, grazie, Creative Heroines! And, looking forward to seeing more of your responses, xo.
