We must be the spark and romantic lover of our own life.
As I sit on a plane headed to celebrate a friend's birthday for the night, writing notes for a new course for moms I'm creating around making a living and having a life, I'm reminded of one thing.
Not that life is sweeter when there are surprises and spontaneity sprinkled throughout the weekly routine (though true).
Nor that it feels amazing and is important to show those you love that you care, in all the ways that are available to you (though true). [The fb post from May 12th about the 30 days of love notes I sent my brother before he passed might be the kick in the pants you need/want to start your own 30-day love note fest: http://on.fb.me/1HguzGI]
Or that business ownership/entrepreneurship affords you a freedom and portability that helps you feel free (though true).
The thing I was reminded of was this: the person who holds the key to your greatest peace and joy is you. It's no one else's job (or fault). That story will simply keep you feeling stuck, anxious and unhappy, exactly where you are. You have to make joy — literally.
…you must be the spark and romantic lover of your own life.
Over the years, I've had many conversations with women, some moms, some not moms, who consciously or unconsciously are waiting for someone to make them happy (to change so they can be happy) or to give them permission to do the thing, whatever that thing is…to be more fully themselves, to finally express their creativity by starting that business, writing the book or taking that class, someone who will give them the time they keep saying they don't have, and it goes on.
It's true that some seasons are easier than others to get after the big stuff, the stuff that will matter most to you when this life is over, but even when (and especially when) it hurts or you have to stay up late or get on a plane early, or whatever it is, being the mother of your own reinvention is what it's all about. It's how you meet the happiness that sticks around way longer than that yoga class.
It's up to you in the best and most beautiful way. You're the only guru and the driver.
As my book Walking Momtra says, focus on your happiness so you can RAISE happiness. Focus more on you, create space or a new story for building and fitting in happiness so you can raise it in the very people you might have be waiting on to do it for you.
When you do, when you get after your joy in this way, when you are the spark, the romance in your own days, you quantum leap into someone else's life, quite possibly, even, the life you've always wanted.
Sending you so much love*.
Life is good,
p.s. *Mom entrepreneurs, watch this space for a new, MGI-original {FREE} Master Training coming up (title to be revealed at the end of this week). I know it will be supportive to you in building an authentic business and family filled with happiness. Here's to romancing a life and business that bears fruit (success) in the most incredible way.