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What 11 Days Taught Me

What 11 Days Taught Me

I recently spent a glorious 11 days on my own, in and around the city I live, while one husband and one son traveled overseas on a guys trip. 

I loved every SINGLE minute of living the intentional 11 days (both personally & professionally, I only did what was a hell yes and I made time for retreat and spontaneity, my lifeblood). 

While they devoured time, I did, too.

What 11 Days Taught Me

To me “higher love” back when I first heard the song with my Mom in the late 80s was about finding a boy and keeping him (boy crazyyyy ;-)…

Though I saw my Mom protect time for herself and I so felt her individuality, I still thought of a boy completing me (hinting at a more “complete” happiness?). 

Now, yesterday, today and for some time now, I know that this “higher love” is about something more elusive that society doesn’t teach us ~ it’s about enjoying who we are, with or without company or a wedding ring (a ring I have consciously decided not to wear beginning eight months ago ~ it had felt like a symbol more for society than for myself, plus I belong to me plus plus our relationship needs not a ring to be a healthy or whole one)…

It’s about taking care of ourselves in a new, more honest way, again, even though the thing that society *does* teach us is to forgo that impulse and self-grounding and, instead, feed everyone else’s needs or expectations of us as a woman, partner or mother. 

Steve Winwood wrote it & James Mcmorrow sings it (partial lyrics below):

🎶”Think about it, there must be higher love
Down in the heart or hidden in the stars above
Without it, life is wasted time
Look inside your heart, I’ll look inside mine
Bring me a higher love
Bring me a higher love
Bring me a higher love
I will wait for it
I’m not too late for it
I could light the night up with my soul on fire
I could make the sun shine from pure desire
Let me feel the love come over me
Let me feel how strong it can be…”. 🎶

What 11 Days Taught Me

We can not love others without self love.

True love you can keep is you and me, ladies, W I T H ourselves, truly w i t h ourselves ~ when we’re doing this, the diamond 💍 within sparkles most bright. 

Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…

To the best of the rest of your life!

Life is good.