The Day My Life (& Work!) Changed

For many of us, it’s not about finding work that simply fills a bank account, it’s about finding or creating work that fulfills us, too (too). 

I need to type that again ~ it’s not just about finding or saying yes to work that fills a bank account, it’s about finding or creating work that fulfills us, too…

Many have come to this realization straight out of the gates and for others it might take a huge change in life as experienced through loss, for example, to set them on a path that feels, not just productive (as in yields a “product” for themselves like $), but expressive of all their talents and life experience that supports the greater good, as well.  

Everything that happens or doesn’t happen in life (sad, happy, expected, unexpected) can launch us into more purpose-full work or into this realization that there’s more…

For me, continuing to evolve and elevate my work to whatever next level of depth and purpose there was/is/will be has been largely inspired in recent years by the tragic losses of beloved immediate family members (one of whom I was missing extra today after a challenging doctor appointment).

Work or the projects I take on the need to feel purpose-full or I’m not interested. It’s the only thing I am excited by intellectually and that my heart can “tolerate” at this stage of the life game. You might feel similarly.

This entire share is inspired by a text conversation I had with a friend last week. Here is the crux: if you’re working inside a job or on a path of entrepreneurship that doesn’t feel all the way you or that is sucking the life out of you, there IS another life waiting for you, if you want it (or if you take some time to do the inquiry necessary to do, maybe, what you’ve always REALLY wanted to do).

The women I work with inside life (this brand and success coaching practice (-:), whether they‘re entrepreneurs, CEOs or executive women, the question is largely the same ~ what’s my next thing/what’s the plan to expressing all of me through my latest chosen profession? 

The work fills me emotionally.

And though the last 16 years doing this work has been infused with meaning, it’s nothing like it is today. And I hope to say that again next year and the year after that and the one after that, as there’s no turning back from that meaning, purpose and honest self-expression. 

Ask yourself, how can I bring a new element of the woman I am today to bear on this question I have for what’s next for me professionally? 

And maybe some of these ladies below will inspire you as they do me:

My client Sinead, “the model who talks tech”, shaking up NYC and the millennial generation with her powerful NYC WAYE events and unique insight and guidance into the future of tech and how to fold all parts of who you are at a young age (a woman after my own heart)…

Jill, a whip-smart doc in NYC, desiring to enliven the women she works with, not just through traditional means, but with outside-the-box practices such as dance… 

Holly, a woman who had hands inside startups and a law background, a Portland native, who was the first person I had ever met who uniquely joined fashion and philanthropy, giving back 100% of proceeds to a new, worthy organization each quarter.

My client Stacey, a psychologist in NYC, who works with adolescents who are overwhelmed or overworked, alongside their parents, helping them all to live (and love) more fruitful lives individually and together.

Nicole, a midwife, death doula and thought leader uplifting her industry  back East via the start of unique groups and methods to help each heart-centered woman she supports to grow emotionally and in the self care they so need, so they can continue to assist others in the purpose of birthing, living and dying with presence and honor.

Eva, San Diego transplant, who helps rehabilitate Guatemalan villages through her high-end and handmade house goods brand, Couture Culture, which I helped name…

These ladies and others like them who I work with intimately inspire and move me — they remind us all that your soul CAN sing (as you impact lives) AND so can the bank account that affords you and yours similarly impactful life experiences (it needn’t just be the bank account that feels and fills UP). 

If you or someone you love might resonate with this, feel free to send it to them. It IS possible to do what you love! 

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Napping in Napa (how to be consistent!)

[Napping in Napa in June, photo courtesy of JHM].

On being disciplined…

Get up (one to two hours) earlier than the house gets up and you’ll have enough time to BE disciplined.

So many of us struggle with discipline, consistency or follow through, not just because we don’t have the right habits inside that purposeful work life or creative life, but because we start on our project or purpose way too late in the day.

It’s easier to be disciplined, consistent or to follow through on what’s most important for us when we create a wider canvas or deeper container for it.

The catch or first step: you get to find your own unique way to get disciplined about going to sleep earlier.

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Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. Did you catch this new SERVICE/offering at my home!?

My “Only” Life (it’s not what you think)

I would’ve never thought 13 or 14 years ago that I would only be a mom once ~ one shot consciously chosen and where the outcome would be this beautiful being.

And, similarly, yet different at the same time, I could’ve never imagined the joy felt inside a 17-year marriage until being inside it. Another shot consciously chosen (not just when I met him while dating him or on 6.16.01, but every day anew choosing to create new things together — it may not be more babies, but there are other people and stuff to nurture and build).

I would’ve never…could’ve never…but in this lifetime, I have given myself (been given) both experiences — an only child and an only marriage — and they both have been lovely.

What are you grateful for today? 

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Keep Your Workouts Going (an idea)

The reason I go out of my way to keep my regular workouts on holiday, no matter how far I need to travel or how early I must rise before festivities start, is because I know I’ll then (continue to) go out of my way to live out dreams or other passions. 

After visiting the Cliffs of Moher, it poured — I wanted to sit, tea and read [did that later], but remembered what I also wanted (move this body in this particular way — I revel in it), so I drove 20 minutes mid-day to this (pictured). 

Because…to push those dreams or projects uphill or help them along as they coast (winning) downhill or hold them on the days when they are (or are not) working as we’d like…you need strength for that (& there’s no app for that).

It’s a *true trust test* — with yourself. Say that 5x really fast. 

It comes down to who you be and what you choose when external circumstances, say, the city, the people, the rain, the pocketbook, schedule etc. are tempting you to abandon what simple things you know makes for your content and expressive life.

It’s all connected. 

I’ve been an active woman for a long time, save for just before I got pregnant and a short stint in college not playing a sport, but I think many of us do find it getting harder to choose self in this way, specifically, when motherhood or business ownership or hormones are telling you that you might want to stay put.

I’m sure there’s something you enjoy doing…maybe it’s for your own physical or mental health or, maybe, even something you love to do with or for your family or romantic relationship, but, when things get shifted or shaken up, even the slightest, it’s the first thing to go —

Start doing *that* thing that you know for certain brings joy, no matter what, and do it as often as you think about it (it’s probably a lot more than you’re currently doing it), not just every now and again when it’s “convenient”.

Dreams aren’t convenient most days, weeks, months and years, either.

Make it fun — make it a challenge, a practice…an experiment to see what happens when you stop saying “tomorrow” to these moments you know you want…then, feel the satisfaction, trust and strength that will come internally and, how this thing you now do begins to not-so magically help you step into the larger projects, shaping your beautiful, creative and interested life (notice I didn’t say interesting, though that will happen, too). 

It’s THIS thing that you keep wanting to do more consistently daily or weekly (but don’t do) that is your driver or spark for the other larger stuff.

Legacy level passion is tied to a daily joy or passion. 

When you have the (an) idea, the desire or passion to do something inside, then don’t do it, over and over again, you, in essence, break your own heart ~ you break trust with yourself.  

The more we break trust with ourselves, the less that we end up believing that the life we want is there for us…

The less well we feel, the more defeated we feel and the less spark or gung-ho we continue to be for the bigger stuff or larger expressions we know we need to get after before we depart this planet.

To lose trust in ourselves makes us feel like we are losing or have already lost, but it’s not necessarily true. 

Gain the self-trust back with commitment and a devotion to your happiness in the simplest of ways and you’ll trust deeper in yourself to get after the harder, heavier or most meaningful stuff that’ll lead to a purpose-powered life.

Be like a dog on a bone with that (simple) everyday thing you love or wish to do. 

It’s not just a workout or a _______ or a ______ or a _______.

It’s tied to the things or experiences you most want — the self-realization, peace, and elation tied to the commitment and devotion to your greatest ideas.

So, be — 

Tenacious.

Persistent.

Because it’s these simple things that bring us joy (that simple thing ~> could be health-related as it is for me, in however you define health or movement for yourself) that can be the parallel passion needed to bring other grander ones to light…(match to flame). 

Stick with it, stay committed to what you want or to the way you want to feel and the more you’ll make good on the larger dreams, experiments, challenges or movements you want to build.

Keep building..self from all sides. 

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur