Weekend PSA for Mamas

Weekend PSA for mamas feeling their kid’s transition from kid to teen or to more full teen/young adult…

They’re now, not only making plans without us, they’re making plans we don’t even know about until last minute.

They’re starting to test out all their unique powers (making their own plans is one) and exercise independence and that feeling of freedom we ALL love.

They’re starting/continuing their (own) lives — the way it’s supposed to be and exactly what we wanted to do at their age.

I hear from many friends how hard this time of letting go is and know the feeling myself.

It’s a transition for our kids (both exciting and tough for them, if we’re honest), but it’s most definitely a transition and a new season for us, too (more tough than exciting for us, depending on where we fall on the spectrum that day).

But what I’ve experienced is that I feel the change or loss way less (if at all anymore) when he’s sharing himself with me, stories, thoughts, etc —> so the question is/was, how to get him, not just to talk more, but to share about this life of his (it IS his) —

And not because I am being what would have been called nosy in our own teen years (though, yes, I want to keep him safe), but because I want to keep AND create a new relationship with him, one I’ll want to evolve and dance with until the last day I breathe on this earth and then beyond here, too.

Oh yes, beyond the here, too!

We don’t have to lose our closeness with them — if anything, as parents we can, both organically/naturally and also consciously or strategically create space for something new.

(They want to feel space)

So how do we give it to them and, in the process, create something awesome?

In my world, it’s come from me asking less questions and giving him more answers about myself and about my own life.

How my day is going, what I’m excited or worried about, what’s going right, what I feel is not going so right that I’m working on, essentially, how I would talk to a trusted friend (age-appropriate here and there, but mainly human-to-human appropriate). Over and over again.

I stumbled upon it in a sense. I love to feel connected to the people I love and knew that in these other relationships this came through me sharing more of myself, so that’s what I did even more with him this latest season…

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I’ve done a version of it since he was little, but have upped the ante again since starting high school.

Lo and behold, the more I share about myself and the less I ask about him, the more he shares and shares and shares and shares…

And then, naturally, the more I started to ask him about this or that and receive answers (receive and feel connection, I can feel it fills him deeply, too). He was and is excited to share ~ to be seen, heard and witnessed.

Who doesn’t love that?

Because at the end of the day, it’s not just what we want, it’s what they want to…we all want and need connection, quality attention placed on our stories and feelings, inside SPACE that feels that way {spacious} and without judgement (key)— as in any relationship, romantic, platonic or professional, we sometimes need to get creative (code for — start sharing more of ourselves).

Enjoy your weekend with your people!

[Skiing together a few weeks ago…he said the sun was in his eyes,🌞💛🧑🏻🗣👩🏻].

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Shooting Today (and Re-invention!)

I’ve found that as women we “reinvent” ourselves by not necessarily reinventing in the traditional sense that might point to being someone different, but we reinvent by actually letting out what’s been in us all along.

What I said to my client and dear friend Lindsey this morning connects back to this ~ what we’re doing today in this first shoot for Take a Thought and Run With It , I said, was started long ago…it was started in your heart, inside your innate talents & creativity and within the truth of your life experience(s), those from long ago and most recently, too (both the tough and the joyous experiences).

That she is saying yes to working with it all (to, essentially, letting more of that full self out which has only shown her more fully, too, to the people, places and opportunities that were meant to be for a more full exploration of life) is helping humanity in the process and has already helped many heal as she heals, too (I believe we are “healing” all the time). 

So that today’s a big day, yes, and today is also quite simply a continuation of who she is and has always been…

I’m proud and honored to be part of this brilliant woman’s life and project.

I heard this in a dream a couple years ago “it’s only when you show who you really are that more is revealed” and boy has it been true, both for myself and the women I commune with.

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Happy International Women’s Day!

Today has shined a bright light on the fact that as women, we don’t need the full 24 hours.

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We got it and got you in 23. And though this may feel like it only applies to those of us ladies living in the United States, Canada and parts of Mexico (since daylight savings starts for us today and we technically lost one hour), this goes for every woman everywhere.

Our abilities are as deep and wide as the ocean and it’s fun as hell to go out into the world and think, speak and act as such…

Happy International Women’s Day!

😊

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Your Mini Vision Quest

Do you need a snack…of water?

I ask myself that all the time now, thanks to the vision quest.

Four days of drinking only water shifted some things for me, as did four days of having nothing but a journal, sleeping bag, myself as a party of one (good company btw) and this phone to take photos (no mobile coverage 7,000 feet up, but I did have soul coverage, so I was pretty well-connected the whole time). 

While up there, I got my energy from the rituals and routines I created every day, from meditation, journaling, napping, from ideas and altars I came up with, from praying, taking ample time to look at, smell and connect with nature (boy, did I have ample time…I hopped from sitting under one tree, to another, then another and another), and definitely from the water I drank (three liters worth over the four days).

Water has always helped me with headaches, or to simply slow down ~ being more mindful of the moment I’m in by drinking a little more and a little more and all slowly. 

But recently, I’ve felt it help with better health, energy and overall wellness through better digestion (read: resting my gut).

Instead of snacking on nuts, fruit or a bar a couple times or few times a day, as I used to when I thought I was hungry (I now realize 85% of it was out of habit, rather than true hunger or a “need” to eat), I now drink water (all the while, making sure that my three meals are enough and healthy, balanced sustenance for the day and they are. I’m satiated now in a way I wasn’t before adding even more vegetables and healthy fats). 

All the natural or hidden sugar in our snacks (and meals) that cause us to want more sugar and more snacks is a big piece of this entire discussion, as well. 

We’re definitely led to believe that our metabolism needs flowing food all day or that it’ll slow down, too. But, truly, when do our guts rest?  Just like everything else, they need it. 

And, as importantly, how can we live, move and love more mindfully, stopping to ask way more often, what we are actually truly hungry for?

Because so much of the time, it’s genuinely not food —instead, it might be a change of pace, a job transition, a deeper feeling of purpose, being better seen inside our closest relationships, adventure and on and on it can go like that…
 
Being more aware of the blanket prescriptions made to the masses from those *out there* who don’t know who you are *in there* ~ gut and health-wise, as well as from a soul or emotional level, is also key.

Just because we hear that metabolism slows as we age, doesn’t mean that for us eating all day long is right (and sure, there are medical or other reasons to eat more often, as I did during acute gastritis for a time, where smaller and more frequent meals were best), but, most of the time, we’re not actually stopping to check in to ask or feel what’s right for us.

Instead, we’re moving fast to buy the next supplement, hopping into the next diet or eating the next cool bar on the market, without thinking and researching what’s best for us ~ the physical *and* emotional *and* spiritual-bodied US.

Talking to professionals who have taken the time to get to know you, in addition to *you* knowing you, to come out the other end with the best prescription for health and wellness, is part the prescription, too (speaking with those who have daily practice and knowledge around all of the above has been important over the years and definitely post vision quest after feeling the positive effects of the extended water fast, wanting to find out even more around why this had such a positive impact on me). 

As I’ve shared before, it was an honor to be up there alone, it really was (not to be confused, of course, with being lonely, because that I was not). 

I loved it. 

And the benefits of all nine days, but most definitely of the four, keep showing up (anxious to take my clients out on their first day-long or mini quests). 

Tonight, slow down — close your eyes as you eat your dinner and feel the joy of enjoying it differently.

Tomorrow in a long moment separate from food, ask ~ what is it that I’m truly hungry for? And while you wait to hear or feel the answer, have that snack of water.

Interested in doing a mini quest with me soon? Let me know and I’ll send you the info once it’s complete. 

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur