For a time when I was a young girl, I lived in a home that was racist (even towards those who looked like me, but were from a different country).
I heard things back then that I realized, as of late, that I’m still dismantling — this month and the last weeks have shown me that and have allowed me to get more honest with myself.
I welcome it. It is NOT uncomfortable. What it is ~> time. That we, too, are faced with our “uncomfortable” moments feels time and welcome to me.
Black people have had heavy lifting moments always (doing the work for us while we, brown and white, didn’t have to change a thing).
It is time for me to do heavier lifting and that comes in the form of listening more to others to get more educated, as well as having my own public and private conversations (no more just private) with others in my own communities or circles who may ultimately react vs respond because they’re not ready, have their own dismantling to do, don’t want to see or feel imposed on…
Speaking about the humanity of black lives and the injustice far and wide they’ve endured, not just from the “system”, but from actual people, many like you and me, is necessary.
Talking only about the systematic part of this feels like taking responsibility off of us as individuals, and the responsibility IS on us.
I didn’t consciously know but I used to hide behind the supposed safety of, “but I accept everyone, I’m about human rights” (and then go out and do ‘human rights’ work)” but that it isn’t enough.
We must be direct and directed about it.
When a certain life is more in danger, we go there! We run there! We say, hey, this (direct description of the person or group here) person needs our help…in this case, it’s hey, you guys, black people need our help.
Easy and convenient isn’t doing the job. We must risk more than that…the job’s a big one because it’s a long-standing one.
I get to do better and want to be better.
Systematic is not just pointing to something that happens outside the home, it IS the home.
For those too afraid to speak your support publicly, do it at home, and grow so much from sharing and discussing and asking and reading etc. etc. there that one day soon you have the courage to support a conversation with someone outside the home, too.
Each of our direct support is needed.
Let’s lift the hood of our own beliefs and history. What is honest and true?
Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand (and, much more)…
To the best of the rest of your life!
Activator, Brand Strategist & Experience Creator