A Moment That Touched Me from CHE

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A woman came up to me after the Creative Heroine Experience and told me she had read about my brother’s passing a few years ago (she went to University of Miami but didn’t know him).

She welled up with tears and told me that ever since hearing his story, she started following my work. 

When she saw me post about CHE on IG, she said she knew she needed to be there, so made the trip from MIA~> to LA for a day and a half to attend…

It touched me so much.

SO, so much.

How might you touch someone today in a win-win way?

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. If you would like to read more about the Creative Heroine Experience or about the woman known as the Creative Heroine, feel free to search up the following hashtags on Facebook or Instagram –
#creativeheroine  #creativeheroineexperience

What Paige said…

paige My friend and bad*ss master sculptor, Paige Bradley, sent this out to her community recently.

For those of you who couldn’t make the Creative Heroine Experience but really wanted to, I thought you’d like to read this.

And if you haven’t gotten to know this masters work, please enjoy: www.paigebradley.com

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s: Creative Heroine, here’s the link again on the HGT podcast episode all about CHE in case you haven’t listened to it.

How I Look in The MorningISH (photo)

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It’s in the thinking that we separate…

We are more connected than ever, yet we feel world’s away from one another, too.

One reason we feel this way beyond, maybe, that of brains changing with the overuse of tech or screens and our emotional and social intelligence (or more elegant relating ability) being tested in these times is that we genuinely believe that others are doing better, like a lot better, emotionally/physically/spiritually than we are because of the happy/successful/globe trotting/everything matches/”no mess to see here” photos they’re sharing. 

But everyone doing better than you (and especially in all areas) is not anymore true than a group of people genuinely thinking negatively of you (you’re “unprofessional” or less of a beautiful human being) if you post a photo of a tender moment you want to share along with a photo of how you really look in the morning (case in point, this photo of me Sunday is two hours post wake-up, this is *not* how I look freshly up), or a photo that shows your wrinkles or your mid 40-something soft skin in the sunlight (something I’ve noticed the last few months)…

The OR list is long ~

Or how you really BE on a typical Thursday night or when it’s been a hard and stressful week, OR — connected — if you happen to share about your real emotions around loss, divorce, or another life transition that aren’t necessarily the norm on platforms like these, but that everyone reading has felt many, many times, either about those experiences or others.

What we are craving and have been craving for some time — our life? — is being more real or ourselves with others and others being more real and themselves with us; to be in the world as we are in *our* world (or close-ish, shrinking the gap). COMFORTABLE, like ‘plop down on my sofa or my bed and let’s talk like we live similar lives, because, hey, we do.

We do. 

In other words, asking more of ourselves and creating what we want to be a part of virtually, just as we want to be in life beyond the push of a button, change of a filter or wrinkle brush app. 

The virtual realm can act as a wall or barrier, so we get to work to soften it down, to find ways of communicating and connecting that help to alleviate disconnection and a false sense of perfection.

It’s not everyone’s charge or desire and many of us are private people, but I find it fascinating that for those of us who use these platforms TO connect, why aren’t we, then, connecting in all the ways the word implies?

Connection is more than skin deep, it goes beneath and beyond superficial layers.

I challenged us at Creative Heroine to do that (podcast update HERE) ~ to create a new space *within* this space that holds more of each of us, more depth, more, more, more…

The A and B sides are both as much of the real us:

Growing older…real and universal.

Not winning…yup.

Falling down…definitely. 

And sometimes a combination of these things at the same human time.

It’s a brave creative practice to be ourselves, and one that, maybe, when practiced more can make us braver against other odds, harder things or challenges.

I want to keep waking to alllll of that which is universal, to being free of what one thinks or does not think because it’s in the thinking that we separate…

in the feeling 
where we 
come together. 

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

About Mourning Anyone (or anything, really)

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Paige Bradley “Expansion” sculpture 

We can and do mourn when people are still living ~

A conversation today left me staring at the truth around loss (continuing to take you on a bit of a behind-the-scenes of my book here)…

Loss is not solely felt or experienced when someone dies.

It can be experienced every time someone you love changes form. In other words, when a person (your person) feels a long distance away when communication or mutual understanding is not met or is clouded in some way.

This can happen in many different situations —

In particular, I think of addiction and how devastating this can be on those suffering inside of it as well as on the loved ones wanting it to be different, wanting the break to be filled in and to help their loved ones find their way…back to the relationship, back to contribution, back to healthy living, back to working and speaking and loving as a true family unit, and the list goes on.

But almost identical to experiencing a physical death, the pain or grief journey grows and continues when you realize time and time again, that no matter what you do or say or how much you plead or bargain with God, that you do not have the control to bring them back to you (I remember my mind playing tricks on me — wanting to play tricks *with* my mind with my tragic losses in this way). 

So…

so there are many of us walking around with very real feelings of loss…

…many people feeling grief and in mourning, yet maybe not seeing it that way or not allowing themselves to claim it as such, so that they may, in turn, receive the unique love, guidance, support and counsel for those emotions, being able, maybe, to then walk yet another step or another mile being better understood for what they’re going through.

We can and do mourn when people are still living.

The question is — well, actually, I don’t know what the question is. I’m asking if there is one at the moment or if it simply ends (or begins) there.

We mourn when people we love are still here.

♥️

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. Did you catch the How Good’s This podcast episode about the Creative Heroine Experience? Listen to it HERE.