The Question To Ask Your Kids

Though his talk was not about parenthood or our children, Thom Singer, one of our fine speakers at the Greater Good Party in Austin shared this question (as shared with him by Dr. Deborah Gilboa) to ask our college-aged kids about the profession they may want to pursue after school:

***What do you want to do first?***

Josh and I appreciated it SO much, it felt right on.

I’m on my third profession or industry as is Josh (and neither of us studied in college what we are doing right now, he even went to law school!) — and all is well. We’re content, taken care of and excited by where we’ve found ourselves.

Each step, profession or industry (and moves overseas where our definition of success and “work” was instructed and transformed some more) landed us deeper into what we feel we were meant to be doing all along.

And it’s definitely not over yet (the changes) — many haven’t known what they wanted to do out of school and others always knew they didn’t want the same profession or representation of how their genuine talents are or would be of use or service in the world (how THEY are of use in the world).

Because, as we each grow as evolutionary beings, curious cats, passionate people, professionals, feelers, students or teachers (each of us are forevermore both student and teacher), so, too, hopefully, does our work (it grows, expands, it jigs and jags), even if we decide to stay in the same industry.

There’s a pervasive belief that we have to know what we want to do right out of school and that if we don’t, somehow we won’t be happy or have what we need, but it’s not true.

I wish more kids at all ages could feel a sense of peace knowing their path will be carved uniquely and beautifully by *each* step they take, regardless of what that step is or is deemed or titled by family or society.

We cannot get it wrong.

Our kids cannot get it wrong.

It’s all part of THE point of a creative life where we actually c r e a t e:

trying things out (trying ourselves out) getting to know ourselves SO well in the process, that when we finally land inside of what maybe, possibly, perhaps feels like our “thing”, we’ll know!

Making grand use of this life: knowing ourselves better every day, so we’ll know!

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

 

Honoring The Women Who…

I wrote this last year on International Women’s Day and shared it again via social media this year, but, forgot to send it to YOU. Here it is now, as relevant as ever…xo

May we honor the ones we’ve come from, the ones they’ve come from and the ones they’ve come from, all the way until we get to the first woman who ever lived. 

May we honor those here, those gone, those we’ve known well and those we haven’t and whether we’ve had a “good” relationship with them or not, knowing that honoring all of them is honoring becoming more of ourselves…

May we honor 

the survivors 

the took the bull by its horn’ers

the creators

the worked three job’ers

the nurturers

the leaders

the did the best with what they knew’ers

the protectors

the wouldn’t take no for an answer’ers, each living among us and forever within us…

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Rite Of Passage For My Boy!

Do we have any rites of passage for American adolescence? 

I’ve been asking myself this question over the last couple years as I feel/witness the awesome and natural shifts and changes Nolan, 13, (and, therefore, the changes our family of three), is experiencing.

I’ve deeply been wanting to, as many cultures and religions so beautifully do, not only commemorate his moving into a richer independence, but also honor his individuality, EQ [where true power and strength come from] and support him in starting out this next season (high school and way beyond) in a more conscious, reflective and deliberate way.

…road trip to Sedona!

Tomorrow, Nolan will experience a rite of passage inside a collection of unique moments in ceremony and walk about of sorts with a Celtic Indian shaman from the area (he and I put this together as it was genuinely hard to find) with it now feeling equally hard to put into words how blessed I feel (we feel) about it…

Because a big part of the rite of passage speaks to his foray into manhood, Josh is lucky enough to experience it alongside Nolan. (As I shared with a friend over an audio this morning, I tried to invite myself, but our fearless leader wasn’t having it, ha ha). 

Planning this experience, has taught me / reminded me of many things, not least of which is if you can’t find something, create it.

Create what you want to be a part of.

You, your family, your community will all be better for it.

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Bringing Willie In for a Warm Meal

This weekend while in NOLA, we did a few small missions, as my SIL called them.

We purchased food, sat and simply spoke to people, those who likely have few people sit and talk to them for long periods of time, our plans ultimately becoming irrelevant.

One of my favorite times was bringing Willie in for a warm meal and hearing his stutter become a more fluid speech as his body warmed up (it was colddd in New Orleans the last two nights).

As we waited for his meal to arrive, he drank his sweet tea and told us that his mantra was “It’s nice to be nice”.

He was a love. He was love.

Truly seeing others and giving them a space and time (as long as they need) to warm up and express themselves is one of the biggest gifts to give or be given, of that I’ve been sure!
In the middle of the flight home tonight, a couple to my left offered me a sweet nectarine and it reminded, as many people in my life do, that sweetness is always just to the left or right of us, if/when we just give people the time they need to express themselves and tell their stories so they can more fully be seen and understood…

♥️

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur