Camping at Joshua Tree then Carpinteria Beach last weekend…
he/us/this — my biggest friendship experiment yet?
Many months back as I was still gaining clarity around the Greater Good Party and in the middle of planning for the Creative Heroine Experience here in LA, I received this email from my assistant after I had left her a message that I now refer to as a chicken soup for the soul moment:
“Loved your check-in. And love the (full) update on what’s going on with you (and MGI). You have so much to share with the world and I’m so glad you’re always taking the time to find out where your passion lies. Xo”
As I shared in my community newsletter yesterday (you can find the article at the top of my blog at link below), what she was referring to was the time that I’ve taken, not just in 2018 but in 2017 and 2016 and 2015 and 2014 to intentionally pause to make sure that what I was doing, why I was doing it and how I was doing it was in most honest sync with the woman who had emerged from the previous few years of tragic loss.
I’ll never forget that door knock in 2013 or phone call in 2015, just as you’ll never forget the day/the year/the decade when your heart grew wings. But, just as I’ll never forget the knock or the call, that’s not what I constantly think about or had consistently thought about years prior. What I did consistently think about (or more – was excitedly feeling out) was, what to do now? What’s there for *this* me NOW?
With what I believe is true now – which way is up? What does success mean today? How do I romantically evolve a business, a motherhood, a marriage and all friendships with what the heart inside this body now knows? How can I bring a new aspect of the woman I am today to everything I do, say and show, knowing that the external expression of who I am or of what I do gets to change just as my internal environment does?
Pausing, as I’ve come to realize, doesn’t necessarily mean taking a complete hiatus from life or work or from the thing you love. For some, it may mean that and that’s perfect. But for others it means continuing to move (doesn’t even have to be forward), traveling down familiar paths, zig-zagging and testing things, all with more of a student mind, asking more questions and listening better to the answers which don’t always come in full sentences. You’re pregnant with what and who wants to emerge…
Pause. What is my passion now…is it the same?
Ask. Have my talents become more heightened?
Test it out. Am I enjoying this?
Over the last five years (and especially over the last four), I’ve re-evaluated everything. Friendships. Money. Writing. How I work. What I work on and who I help. I have also re-evaluated what giving and receiving as practices [or rituals] mean and how they, specifically, the giving and receiving parts, play vital ying and yang roles in the maximization of life — my life.
As I said at the Creative Heroine Experience last March, we never lose anything or anyone if we don’t lose the lesson.
In this first sharing of what I’ve come to know (there’s more I’ll share) is that a deeper — THE deepest level — of relat-ing, and in-person connection was the impulse; this is what I wanted to continue to build professionally and personally everyday.
Hence the living out (still going) of the Friendship Experiment, which maybe you’ve seen the video of and my main focus around creating event experiences for clients (retreats, homey (homie :-)) workshops, Creative Heroine Experience, Greater Good Parties (the next one in LA is scheduled for December and Austin is coming in February), breaking bread with humans throughout all of the above and the very latest with The Ecstatic Experience Immersion Day on 9/29 and it’s virtual edition launched this morning – they’re all external expressions of what’s now taking full residence internally).
So, maybe pause with those toughest of life experiences and ask as many questions after “what’s next??” as maybe a four-year-old would.
The most helpful of answers and next steps will come (WILL come) and beautifully, too — right here –> in the synchronicities — the ‘random’ emails or phone calls, the right place, right time moments which may also surprise you (but expect them), the ideas dropped into you in the middle of the night (or in the middle of your shower or middle of your mat), as well as inside the feeling of the accelerated ideas that just want to “go”; that most want to be birthed. Follow those most and release the rest, seriously release the rest. Because the best thing we can do to find our purpose sometimes is to let it find us.
Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!
Life is good,
Join us for the month of planning and launching your next or first (ecstatic – that’s how you’ll feel) event experience! 🙂