Life

I Told My Husband No

We finally put away our Christmas decorations and as we were putting the gold reindeer away that greeted friends on the front porch (my Mom made them years back for our family home), Josh asked if I wanted him to throw away the poinsettias.

Funny enough, I had asked myself that question the day before. I was more pensive about it this year because we’ve never had poinsettias live this long.

Would I want to throw the plants that look like and feel like Christmas away because it wasn’t Christmas anymore? Or because neighbors might think we were late, lazy or not in timing with how things usually work?

I told him that I didn’t want to throw them away (and that I had asked myself that question yesterday) and had come to this answer, telling and/or helpful in other life situations, too: why would I throw something away that clearly has life in it still; that is alive and beautiful just because a particular season has passed?

We do this in our lives. We throw away a friendship because we believe a season has passed for that friendship to be able to continue to blossom. We don’t look for the spark, however small, to breathe life into it again. We get and stay busy and figure it’ll come back if it’s meant to. And though there are many relationships that understandably run their course for various reasons, many times, with more exploration, a smidge more curiosity or courageous conversation, we might realize that the friendship still has another nine lives in it and so much to teach both of us, not to mention much joy in it still, too.

We do that with who we are, too. With our identities. We throw away or ignore one of our primary talents — our life force — thinking that this talent or, maybe, more specifically, the dream tied to our talent was for another time, that it’s too late now…

Maybe worse, we pay who we really are beneath all of the societal layers and expectations little to no mind because we feel others or our industry [the box] won’t understand or accept it (or worse, that we won’t succeed). In other words, that we should play *within* the box because those around us won’t look kindly upon our striking (!) multi-faceted ways and are doing it this other way.

So, we toss…

We toss the friend, the possibility of an even better or deeper friendship and the possibility of an even better professional or creative life. And in doing so, we let a piece of our ultimate purpose, growth, healing, and happiness go.

What if every time we had the knee-jerk and rather impulsive reaction to throw something away, we knew that was the very moment we needed to keep it alive?

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

The Source of Life

The source of life lies in who and what we love.

Who do you love?

Who do you want to show love to more this year?

What do you truly love and how could you make it even more of your work this year?

Your joy, peace and success are worth all of it!

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

What My Family Says to Me MOST

When I say I’m going on a vision quest this Summer and they say yes (the youngest of the two with some reservation about my safety, but, ok mama, ok), when I say I’m going out on a date with myself tonight and they say yes, go, when I say I want to create a big event and do it in two months time (wait, the venue just pulled out with a month to go) and he says you can do it, yes, when I well up missing those who have passed and they *both* put a hand on my back without filling the space with anything but my feelings (yes), yes to these gorgeous men.

I feel their love and most of all, I feel how the ongoing decisive and unapologetic go ahead I give to myself is the spark they feed from as well.

As mom, wife, giver, nurturer or forgiver, we might sometimes feel that taking for ourselves takes away from this other thing we’re really good at, but the truth (that may or may not have been told to us by grandmother or mother) is that the more we step away to feast on what feels necessary for our full expression, the more everyone is given what they need to enjoy theirs.

It’s magical how that happens, but it does. Everyone gets what they need.

What do you need this year? How can you give it to yourself first then feel the support coming in from those around you?

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

I’m Nothing Without This in 2019!

Though I’ve looked back to where I’ve been and forward to what’s to come, what’s served me way up this year is paying attention to whose to the left and right of me (the #friendshipexperiment is still going strong and these guys top the list).

Often, we focus so much on looking back at what we’ve lost or forward to what’s yet to be gained, built or accomplished that we forget that what’s left in the middle is this important moment…we forget what our next right action in that relationship is [a new love or trust infused inside a relationship we haven’t tended to in a while helps to build everything else we want in life (any unfinished business in one relationship affects all others and affects all areas of a life)].

In the spirit of keeping things simple, on December 31st, while I laid low with these three (see the doggie?), I cheers’d to the many simple moments in the middle as well as the many next right actions calling me in each of my relationships in 2019.

Who is calling you in 2019? 

Happy New Year, Creative Heroine! May your relationships lift you and bless you a million times over.

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur