Life

44 years young in Paris

Forty-four years young this past Monday and these are some of the best gifts I’ve received, either those I’ve given to myself or those given to me:

Two baby brothers.

Sons, one 🌞 in particular.

Writing…pen and paper, specifically.

Intuition.

A mother who deeply loved my son as *her* son/sun.

Friends who plan luscious morning birthday parties in Paris complete with breakfast, streamers, balloons and om’ing/yoga’ing as families (thank you, Holly!!).

Romance.

A mother and father-in-law who love to get silly with me.

Humor.

My hands (able and they do stuff when I talk, plus they look like my Mom’s).

Dancing.

Cousins.

Wanderlust.

Sisters-in-law who I couldn’t have chosen better myself.

A husband who asks how he can make my day sweeter.

The practice of yoga.

Supporting women in integrating more of all of who they are in their professional lives.

Women supporting me in integrating more of all of who I am in mine.

Men supporting me in the same…

Curiosity.

Girlfriends who act like the sisters I never had.

The Greater Good Party.

A grandmother who wore silver sneakers (I wear them, too).

Dimples I would try to erase with a pencil pushing out from within my mouth as a little girl.

The smile in my heart.
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What have been some of the best gifts in your life? 

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Your Stamina (ideas people, listen up)

Ireland is AWESOME — and even more awesome when I continue chasing the next movement. 

Building it or being inside it. Body, mind, and spirit are all better for the structure, creation of challenges and adventures created to experience.

Experiences vs. things. 

Before landing on this side of the pond, and, as important as the unique experiences planned, I scheduled various workouts in each city, similar to what I’d do at home and how often I’d do them at home (I do it every time I travel). This workout with Josh and Bryan being the first. 

I was about to do a livestream about “chasing our next movement”, but then Josh told me I had to get on our next flight. Boo. But yeay.

We land to our new destination in two hours and will hit yoga. All to say — >chase your movement. What do you want to build? And what do you need in mind, body, spirit to help support that building?

Building ourselves physically is important (stamina, “work out” your last problem or idea) but the building/results that come from building ourselves emotionally are entirely unique and powerful. 

In related news, I revel in this guy’s support. Today as I walked with computer in hand to our gate finishing working on something as I walked, he held/rolled every carry-on. 

I did end up managing to do a quick 45-second or so livestream on Instagram walking to the gate and he made a cameo appearance…

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

You Make People Uncomfortable (what someone told me)

 

You will make lots of friends, not make lots of friends and trigger lots of friends being yourself and sharing that self honestly (not to be confused with tmi), wherever you do that, on or offline [so Freda]. This is a story of the latter two.

It’s all good.

Your authentic expression AND your creativity are good and important and will always, indirectly or directly, be called into question, both by others and even (especially?) by you.

Step in line. Step back, they or you say to yourself.

Don’t inspire us (me) to feel, nor cause us (me) to get curious or question a n y t h i n g, the same or similar voice repeats.

Don’t share your real-ity, lie a little, let’s keep it light, for if not, we might actually feel connected, we may experience the reality of not being alone or even heal a little.

Clearly this is not as traditionally fun as the silly livestream last week sharing the story of how we got engaged, but it’s good and important, nonetheless.

Last night, someone in our extended family told me that with “how much you share” I likely “make people feel uncomfortable.”

It wasn’t said with malice and was referring to how I share around death, my relationship(s), about motherhood, my kid and, generally, my thoughts and feelings around other life topics.

Not everyone can handle it or wants to handle it, I was told.

There are buttons and apps for that :-)), I said, and the truth is we can’t MAKE someone feel uncomfortable (another topic for another time, but let’s say that we make silent agreements with ourselves all the time…we say we won’t, no, we WON’T allow others to be themselves, to be comfortable in their own skin, no. we. won’t. If WE are not comfortable being who we are, who are they to? Who are they to be more fully expressed?).

Though I was genuinely happy to have this discussion as I’m well practiced in it (I get curious about things that flirt with triggering me *and*, I like to find out more around how other’s inner world’s work), I let it go almost as soon as the chat had started.

I always want to understand more fully and yet I knew at that exact moment, as I have in other similar moments, that it wouldn’t change who I am, what I do or how I see social media or ANY part of life as an opportunity to be the only version of me I know ~ the real one.

What’s personal is professional and what’s professional is personal in my world. That’s one way to say it, though there are many ways to say IT.

If I can only show you filtered photos of the smooth, flawless, non melasma skin I don’t have, or of the expensive food that most days is only simple food I can squeeze in between work or mom duties or only show you pretty bright eyes vs. my crying eyes isn’t truth, which, then, to me, isn’t sexy, exciting, interesting (or interested!).

Truth is sexy. Our range is interesting. Emotion and emotional is interest-ed.

I’ve also found it creates some incredible relationships and, at the end of the day, this or these are what make a life that was once good move to and stay at great.

Bottom line is this ~ there are no mistakes in life, even when they feel like that. The conversation wasn’t a mistake. Here I am sharing about it.

And our life’s work (mine being exactly that which is being called on to shift, change or turn the volume down on ~ > authentic expression and creating a more fully integrated brand and life) is no mistake either.

What you’ve been through and are going through that either triggers you or others that you find passion in or that you find you can’t or don’t stop talking about at dinners, on social media or late into the night with your partner at home is purposeful…keep sharing it — thank you for doing that (for continuing to share it and being only the you that you know yourself to be).

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Brought Me to My Knees…

As mentioned in ‘my friendship experiment over the last 10 months’ livestream last weekend, I’ve let myself fall back into some of my deepest friendships.

It’s brought me to my knees in gratitude. And up lots of mountains (why not choose our own, physical or energetic? — I’ve talked a lot about this, how our greatest creativity can bring us to choosing our own challenges/”problems”, it’s what the #CreativeHeroine Experience was about).

It’s also found me dancing late into the night in places like Italy, laughing in spaces called Unicorn or to fields meeting friends’ donkeys. This conscious recommitment period has also inspired me to be better or more active friends with my parentals, to plan a trip with my Mom-in-law and recommit, generally, to daughterhood…

But it hasn’t all been travel, it’s also inspired me to make local friendships a lot more fun and spontaneous, to run (through airports after said late night dancing) and, lately, it’s found me napping on couches named “Lose All Ambition” because they (or is it the friendships?) are so comfortable and comforting.

Like many of us, my life these days needed less FB and IG filters or DMs, less distance, more real convos (r e l a t i o n s h i p s), and, specifically, a lot more direct flights, the DMs I enjoy most.

We can always create what we want to be a part of. And — we have so many people simply waiting for us to arrive or to, themselves, be invited [back to the foreground of our lives or into our hearts].

And we have so many people simply waiting for us to arrive or to themselves be invited.

Send the invite? Send yourself?

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. If you didn’t catch my livestream on my way back from Alaska around my ten-month friendship experiment, HERE she is. 

p.p.s Watch this space for more information on something happening in my home in Los Angeles. The information will drop on July 16th!