Life

Today, I unfriended her…

Today, I “unfollowed” (but didn’t “unfriend”) an idea I’ve been working on since 2012 with awesome writing coaches (Jen Sincero), thought leaders (Gabby Bernstein), uber fun and laser-focused editors (Paula Tiberius) and, as of late, all-around creative geniuses (Karen Barri Salmansohn). This is as much a love note of gratitude to them as much as it is a love note to you…

As creatives, it’s not easy to set one of your babies aside to care, full-time, for another one.

I know you feel me…

We ask:

• But, how will that one idea get fed?
• Who will rock that baby when it’s not well?
• Most importantly, who will continue to teach or “mold” them into coming more fully into their best and truest selves; to express themselves clearly, powerfully and elegantly? How will they grow up to be who they were intended to be; WILL they ever grow as they were meant to???

TODAY’S MANTRA/MOMTRA:  I may unfollow this idea today, but I don’t unfriend it.

Here’s what that means –> Just because you may have to or want to let go of an idea in your business, it doesn’t mean you have to fully unfriend or, in essence, block her from your life.

It doesn’t mean that you can’t go back to her in the future.

In fact, it doesn’t mean that she won’t continue to show up throughout everything else you do, because she will. Energetically and in vibrational tone, each idea you from this day forward will have living inside of it, this idea that you are saying see you later to.

The one you are allowing yourself to part ways with will live and does right now already live inside every other idea you end up birthing…

It’s the way life, energy, creativity and ideas work. You can fight it by lamenting or worrying about if it’s right or not, but you’ll just be fighting your natural creative power which is your very reason for living and breathing…

Whatever was created by you will always
instruct what will continue to be created by you…

Again, we never actually fully let go of an idea because each idea is always part the next, and possibly greater, idea or expression. So, let’s:

• Thank ourselves for having the dedication to the idea for so long.

• Acknowledge what a solid part of the writing/creation/entrepreneurial journey it’s been for you and that you couldn’t have done it without it…

• Thank the idea — this beautiful energy in physical form – and tell it that you will either see it in a new form soon (likely, you already are). Give gratitude for all its shown you and for all its done to continue to stoke a fire of creativity, transformation, mastery and refinement in you…

Let go if you can feel it’s right and, as you make the decision, know this:

3. As writers/creators/entrepreneurs, we can love our ideas, but being attached to them in fear that more won’t come or that you “have to go through with it” because you’ve put so much time into it doesn’t help the birthing power of more ideas that you will ultimately be known for.

Allow your ideas to be like water, they come and they go…love them and see them off, either out into the world as you officially birth it or as you let it go to instruct yet another, more refined or more deeply aligned idea…

2. As creative women, remember that not all ideas are actually meant to be birthed, or birthed in the original way we intended them to be. Some are seedlings or carrier ideas, in other words, ideas that are the seeds to other great expressions of who we truly are and what our work is about in the world. Work on ideas with genuine fervor, even if you know they may not be birthed out into the world, as it (and they) are all ultimately part of your mastery…

1. As humans and entrepreneurs, letting go is as important as letting in. In other words, the more we can practice doing this in our business happenings, remembering the life present in our ideas is as impermanent as our breath, the more we are able to find the soul strength to keep moving forward– on ANYTHING. Letting go, the practice of surrender and, ultimately, resilience are keys to our success and will be the reason to more ideas continuing to find residence within us.

If you’re in a season or moment of moving on from an idea in business or in writing that you’ve loved and nurtured for a long time, I’m sending you love and, more than anything, excitement for what’s to come.

I know something amazing is coming for you and I can’t wait until YOU find out what it is.

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

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My Heart Lives HERE

Yesterday was the start of the CEO Changemaker business mastermind where each woman is taking on one main business or brand goal, as well as one cause to land inside of by the end of our time together.

To give for two hours inside the group, then ceremoniously give the first 20% from this particular program, as I have from others, but this time to the organization I went to Greece with in November in support of the refugee crisis is reflection-worthy (reflection: part of the topic in today’s first training).

Friends and family have asked why not give or do (more) work locally, why go so far away and my answer is always the truth — I do give and serve locally and I also go where my heart takes me…

I’m on her ride, more than she’s on mine…”my ride or die”, as the kids these days say. ;)

I believe our hearts (ability to raise money and desire to go to other places and give) are large enough to affect a global family in a unique way. Call that a social entrepreneur, changemaker or spiritual activist (another one of today’s topics), but call on what moves you most.

The truth is, just like with most things that mean anything, you don’t end up choosing. Your heart chooses for you.

You are chosen — the work chooses you.

It’s true — vital — that, as Americans, we get more interested in US (the U.S.) and what we can do at home *and* doing work wearing our World Citizen badges is also key, if we are so called.

At the end of the day, if it’s in service to humanity, we are doing what is right by the heart. Did you know she (the heart) lives right in the middle of this beautiful thing? ~> 🌍  <~

Listen to what breaks your heart most these days, what articles you linger on and do it — give in whatever way you can…in time, money, in helping to mobilize or gather others, it’s all valuable and it all counts.

That’s what happened to me a few years ago. My heart…she knew, she told me (and kept telling me) and so I went and it goes just like that…

Sending you love today, lady changemaker. May you do just that ~ may you change the world through that big heart of yours and through your ever-expanding and expansive business…

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

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p.s. If you’d like to follow along with us for the next six months, there’s still time to join us (though the group is full, we are opening up the possibility for you to receive our training recording and workbook from each month!). You will be forever changed, I can assure you of that. Join us. Here’s to creating meaning and finding happiness.

Meaning Leads to Happiness (a little bit about my talk at Allegheny College)

Last week, we spoke all day, in friendship and (in) love…

First, a breakfast with a new friend. Then, answering questions on video for an hour, followed by a lunch with both Allegheny faculty and students asking questions (laughter, empowerment through the lens of philosophy and I even snuck in the story of how Josh and I met to Josh’s surprise).

After a walk in the snow to quickly watch the Tibetan monks on campus working inside one of their mandalas (so beautiful), we did our respective talks, coming back together at the end to close it out with final thoughts which felt as light and breezy as they were serious and important.

The Q&A was one of our favorite parts, followed by a reception and breakout sessions which lasted until 7pm.

Josh and I have talked about writing a “He Said, She Said” type book for a long time, but instead the universe gifted us with the opportunity to do these “She Said, He Said” talks about doing what you love (what you want shows up in unique clothing (couture/one-of-a-kind), watch for it). But it was more than that…isn’t everything ‘more than’?

It was a display of Josh’s and my friendship. Nietzsche, who faculty brought up quite a bit yesterday, said it’s not a lack of love that breaks up marriages, but a lack of friendship. Agree?

It was a display of taking what we do and find creativity in and continuing to make giving from that energy or those businesses/entities a must; taking giving donations **to being the donation** and getting on planes and getting hands dirty, while getting so tired from answering questions that you can’t wait to do it again…

It was a display of respect for my partner, for romantic partnership and what it can mean in 2017, not just for the world, but for one guy we love more than anything: Nolan.

It was a display for how much one can give and give and be, simultaneously, filled back up and up.

It was a display of the power of story told from two distinct perspectives, but that, at the end of the day, have the same beating heart.

…a display for the respect for life and lives who need what you have to say, but get more from feeling how much you actually live it, than from what you are telling them…

This was all part of what was shared yesterday — pause at what’s expected of you, question the thinking and **feel** instead…see things not just for what they seem, but for what they ARE bringing you in terms of meaning, aliveness and quality relationships (p.s. when you experience closed doors or perceived problems/ challenges, know that you’re simply being asked to study solution — getting into this practice and, ultimately, being known as solution or solution-oriented will do more for your life and professional experience than most anything.)

Unless, of course, you ask yourself to always find meaning. That’ll do a lot, too.

You’ll find happiness.

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

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How to Explain Your Multi-Passionate Ways

They are each my people, equally, though in the world of love and loving there really is no equal and there is no balance, this is what I’ve come to find out, there’s only a well that replenishes itself as needed, so you can continue to give of and express your true self to who and what’s most important to you.

These are cards I gave Nolan and Josh a couple weeks ago. They stared at me extra long this morning, so I could share this ~

You don’t have to choose between your purpose and your purpose.

You don’t have to choose between your passion and your passion. 

You don’t have to choose.

You can love up on a family and do amazing work in the world, outside of them.

If you have kids and are also someone creating a movement in the world through what we call your business, service or passion project, I know that each of them are important to you and that both make you feel on-purpose…it’s ok, be honest and live that life ~ yours.

Both are mine, without a doubt: growing a conscious, loving family and marriage and being there emotionally for a growing-way-too-fast Nolan is a 10+.

And (not or) growing something outside of him and outside of US as a unit (that only supports our growth as a unit) is also a 10+. When we realize this last one — this last purpose — is truly about growing oneself, we’ve touched upon the ultimate success.

I get that each side fuels you in unique ways, so don’t choose!

It’s also ok to stop making the conversation about what’s more important.

For you, they’re both ‘more important’ to your path of meaning.

They are both, and it is ALL, your thing; your multi-purpose and multi-passionate thing…

I know what your next question is (it was mine 11 years ago), you will have time to do it all — to love up on all parts of the fully expressed you — because time will rise to meet your rising.

Sending you love, Creative Heroine!

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

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p.s. Infuse more meaning into your business and brand and follow along with the CEO Changemaker Mastermind group for the next six months (all the valuable resources for $97 per month vs. $697 per month)! Let us know if you’d like more information. Until then, cheering on your multi-passionate ways…