Holidays are Hard (how I handle it)

When I started tickling Nolan years ago and he’d laugh uncontrollably, I’d ease up on the tickling, then as I started up again, I would tell him, through my own laughter now, that love hurts, tickle tickle tickle tickle tickle tickle (he’s always had a wicked sense of humor, so he thought it was funny).

Years later, I still tickle him like that (and every now and again still say that) and we both continue to think it’s funny. Because it’s true.

It can and it does. But that’s not a bad thing. It’s a natural thing, the real and honest thing and when we’re real and honest, there is no wrong.

I feel enormously blessed staring out at my Mom’s two statues in my garden (here’s one) while blasting the music I told you I couldn’t do a choreographed dance to last week when I shared that basketball video of Nolan and me (the light hamstring strain is almost healed).

During another holiday season where it might feel easy to continue to feel the discomfort in the new normals and breaks in what once was our “Club G” family tradition, I keep allowing the effortlessness of joy that seeps through the human spirit (it’s all parts naturally spirited).

I’m grateful for all the freaking gifts of these last five years that have come unwrapped, real and raw, the kind that helps to further appreciate and stay tickling a child as one example) because we know life, purpose and meaning ALL live right there in that moment and in that soul.

A not-so-secret to joy = treating the person in front of you as if they’re the very person you’ve lost. How would you en-JOY or share with them if you had one last day together? Find the someone nearest you and give it all to them.

I’m thankful for the kinds of gift(s) that *make* us slow down so that staring into the garden is not just another idea from a mindfulness magazine, podcast or book, but a way of your precious mind/body/spirit FULL life.

For anyone who is missing a loved one this holiday season (or who doesn’t feel up for what it feels everyone else seems up for right now) for any reason —

Because of a disagreement
A break up
A death
A health scare or challenge 
Physical distance 
or other…you’re not alone.

May you see and feel loved by everyone and everything directly to the left and right (or right in the middle of what feels like and is a vast space to fill).

There is much for us there and there’s still much of you to give or receive. Give someone a hand or outstretch yours so we can give to you. One of these, giving or receiving, is where your greatest healing and reconnection to joy begins and never ends —

You are beloved.


Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

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