I took myself on a date recently on a Saturday night. Hot date. Planned for two weeks.
As partnered people, we have to work harder at this, but for women especially, it’s vital to keep reminding ourselves that although being in relationship is damn amazing, it’s really us who brings the magic and the party within.
Yes, we’re social creatures and ‘need’ or better yet, want others in our lives, but we know all about that…society and hormones teaches us to hook up and be connected and be in relationship when we’re quite young (it’s natural and normal), but what it does not teach us that we need to teach or remind ourselves (and our girls, nieces and friends, young and old alike) is how to enjoy your own company and how oh how to be alone, but not lonely.
You can be alone and not feel lonely.
More than the dinner or the exercise of doing special “out in the world” things (usually reserved for couples), the important part I find myself sharing with friends, clients and myself, alike, is always: your partner, though an amazing part of your life, isn’t ever the one in charge of your peace or happiness, it’s you in charge of it and that’s awesome (it’s awesome to be in charge of what makes us feel full — something I did not know the way I know it now in my teens, 20s and early 30s).
So, insert your own “here she is” and know that, yes, there you are — for you! You *got* you.
You/we can be these individuated, joyful, self-fulfilled women (=sexy) who do more than take ourselves out, but know ourselves from deep within to then bring THAT to our partnership (see the above photo for the one I really, really enjoy :).
Let’s make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…
To the best of the rest of your life!
Life is good.