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You Make People Uncomfortable (what someone told me)

 

You will make lots of friends, not make lots of friends and trigger lots of friends being yourself and sharing that self honestly (not to be confused with tmi), wherever you do that, on or offline [so Freda]. This is a story of the latter two.

It’s all good.

Your authentic expression AND your creativity are good and important and will always, indirectly or directly, be called into question, both by others and even (especially?) by you.

Step in line. Step back, they or you say to yourself.

Don’t inspire us (me) to feel, nor cause us (me) to get curious or question a n y t h i n g, the same or similar voice repeats.

Don’t share your real-ity, lie a little, let’s keep it light, for if not, we might actually feel connected, we may experience the reality of not being alone or even heal a little.

Clearly this is not as traditionally fun as the silly livestream last week sharing the story of how we got engaged, but it’s good and important, nonetheless.

Last night, someone in our extended family told me that with “how much you share” I likely “make people feel uncomfortable.”

It wasn’t said with malice and was referring to how I share around death, my relationship(s), about motherhood, my kid and, generally, my thoughts and feelings around other life topics.

Not everyone can handle it or wants to handle it, I was told.

There are buttons and apps for that :-)), I said, and the truth is we can’t MAKE someone feel uncomfortable (another topic for another time, but let’s say that we make silent agreements with ourselves all the time…we say we won’t, no, we WON’T allow others to be themselves, to be comfortable in their own skin, no. we. won’t. If WE are not comfortable being who we are, who are they to? Who are they to be more fully expressed?).

Though I was genuinely happy to have this discussion as I’m well practiced in it (I get curious about things that flirt with triggering me *and*, I like to find out more around how other’s inner world’s work), I let it go almost as soon as the chat had started.

I always want to understand more fully and yet I knew at that exact moment, as I have in other similar moments, that it wouldn’t change who I am, what I do or how I see social media or ANY part of life as an opportunity to be the only version of me I know ~ the real one.

What’s personal is professional and what’s professional is personal in my world. That’s one way to say it, though there are many ways to say IT.

If I can only show you filtered photos of the smooth, flawless, non melasma skin I don’t have, or of the expensive food that most days is only simple food I can squeeze in between work or mom duties or only show you pretty bright eyes vs. my crying eyes isn’t truth, which, then, to me, isn’t sexy, exciting, interesting (or interested!).

Truth is sexy. Our range is interesting. Emotion and emotional is interest-ed.

I’ve also found it creates some incredible relationships and, at the end of the day, this or these are what make a life that was once good move to and stay at great.

Bottom line is this ~ there are no mistakes in life, even when they feel like that. The conversation wasn’t a mistake. Here I am sharing about it.

And our life’s work (mine being exactly that which is being called on to shift, change or turn the volume down on ~ > authentic expression and creating a more fully integrated brand and life) is no mistake either.

What you’ve been through and are going through that either triggers you or others that you find passion in or that you find you can’t or don’t stop talking about at dinners, on social media or late into the night with your partner at home is purposeful…keep sharing it — thank you for doing that (for continuing to share it and being only the you that you know yourself to be).

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Brought Me to My Knees…

As mentioned in ‘my friendship experiment over the last 10 months’ livestream last weekend, I’ve let myself fall back into some of my deepest friendships.

It’s brought me to my knees in gratitude. And up lots of mountains (why not choose our own, physical or energetic? — I’ve talked a lot about this, how our greatest creativity can bring us to choosing our own challenges/”problems”, it’s what the #CreativeHeroine Experience was about).

It’s also found me dancing late into the night in places like Italy, laughing in spaces called Unicorn or to fields meeting friends’ donkeys. This conscious recommitment period has also inspired me to be better or more active friends with my parentals, to plan a trip with my Mom-in-law and recommit, generally, to daughterhood…

But it hasn’t all been travel, it’s also inspired me to make local friendships a lot more fun and spontaneous, to run (through airports after said late night dancing) and, lately, it’s found me napping on couches named “Lose All Ambition” because they (or is it the friendships?) are so comfortable and comforting.

Like many of us, my life these days needed less FB and IG filters or DMs, less distance, more real convos (r e l a t i o n s h i p s), and, specifically, a lot more direct flights, the DMs I enjoy most.

We can always create what we want to be a part of. And — we have so many people simply waiting for us to arrive or to, themselves, be invited [back to the foreground of our lives or into our hearts].

And we have so many people simply waiting for us to arrive or to themselves be invited.

Send the invite? Send yourself?

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. If you didn’t catch my livestream on my way back from Alaska around my ten-month friendship experiment, HERE she is. 

p.p.s Watch this space for more information on something happening in my home in Los Angeles. The information will drop on July 16th!

Did you catch my livestream?

I realized yesterday that when I livestream, I don’t always make sure to share them with you. I’m rectifying that as of today!

Here is a livestream that I did while standing outside of Ursula’s Costumes in Los Angeles yesterday.

…to holding both the hard and easy.

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

About My Marriage (What It’s Being Used For)

I don’t just enjoy creating with him, I revel in using the love and respect felt for one another for a greater or expanded good ~ a purpose beyond us, beyond Nolan and beyond our family.

I got turned onto this feeling-turned idea-turned passion-turned purpose, not solely by way or inspiration from this love (though I’d love to say that), but through the curiosity one experiences when cracked open through what feels like the loss OF it/the loss of love or loved ones…

We’re getting ready for our May weekends in New York (5th) and the Bay Area (19th) for Greater Good Party evenings (and one in LA in April) and feeling this:

Love, romance and the safety (net) felt when inside it: what if it’s not solely for us — for you and the one you love to enjoy — but for others to be filled by, too…what might we each do with it then?

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. if you live in the Bay Area or New York — we are coming for you! We will be bringing the Greater Good Party to New York on May 5th and to the Bay on May 19th. Both Saturdays. If you’d like to be invited or learn more, email me back and we will send you what you’ll need to join us. They are both not-to-miss events (these events are not ticketed events nor are they fundraising events…each party (vino included) is simply our way of giving back). Join us!