Business

Who I Dedicated THIS To…(xo!!!)

I’m celebrating 17 years this week inside what I confusingly call a business, but that is that and much more.

17! 🎉

The thing I feel the most peace around with this anni can be expressed by sharing this: the other day at the Sausalito Art Festival, an art installation asked passersby to write what their dream job was on a post it.

There were 50, 60, 70 post-it notes on the wall. The uniqueness in the answers was inspiring.

“The one I have” was my answer and contribution to the wall.

There are, of course, larger goals on my writing timeline and inside continuing to help women reinvent and integrate all of who they are inside their chosen work and inside their brand expressions (make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand), but this work is (right) for me.

I attempted for eight years before these 17 to make myself into a shape that didn’t fully allow for what I was best at. The last 17 have been different. There’s been no contorting, just expanding.

Last Saturday, I made sure I tapped my Dad on the shoulder to show him what I wrote. I think in showing him, I also knew I was sharing it with my Mom, who, besides Dino, was my biggest fan (Nolan, on the other hand, told me earlier this week that he wouldn’t want to do what I do, but that he might enjoy Papa’s work). 😆

To each his own.

And that’s the point.

I think of what I specifically want for Nolan and it’s for him to find and express more of himself, and as unapologetically as possible inside the work he chooses to devote time to in his life (work that ultimately if it’s meaningful to him, will choose him).

It could be one career, two, three…it doesn’t matter as long as he feels his contribution does.

How we feel our lives matter makes work feel like something different than the word implies.

I’m dedicating this anniversary to my Mom.

Thank you, Nancy Motta Ghilotti, for making choices to express your own fuller [true creative self] by finally deciding to leave a situation that ultimately helped land me right here in this moment, about to pick Nolan up from school in this corner of the world that I enjoy so much.

It was your strength, along with Oma’s nudging, that ignited my fire and birthed this life that I wouldn’t trade for anything.

Thank you for being my cheerleader and my Creative Heroine, the woman who moves from problem to solution to express to the world who she *really* is.

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Unapologetic is a Strategy (“are you an artist?”, he asked me)

Are you an artist? he asked me. 

My answer and the two beliefs/acts that bring the biggest reward (or allow you fast entry into festivals). 

Did you catch my latest livestream? HERE she is!

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

The Friendship Experiment CONTINUES (livestream replay inside)

Months back, I shared about the post-it note that held the names of the people (friends and family members). I wanted to step up my connection/’more QUALITY time spent’ game with. 

My thought was that this small piece of paper with approximately ten names on it would yield big gain; a powerful and joyous time coming off of four years of tragic loss and it did — and continues to. 

The time spent inside this experiment or adventure has given me what or who I actually felt like I had lost with each death ~ a bit of myself.

I never really lost *them* per say…I didn’t lose my brother and mother, I simply lost my ability to relate or communicate with them in the only way I had learned or known for so many years. 

That ability to relate or connect in the way I always had was what contributed to feelings of “loss”, but the truth is that they…they’ve always been here, albeit in a new form. 

I’ve had the opportunity now to learn to successfully connect to this new form over the last few years (both their names are on that post-it, too.

This last year plus, on what I’ve called my Friendship Experiment (see livestream replay link in the p.s) and after connecting deeper and more consistently with more than half the names on that list in more meaningful ways (especially since the losses) has shown me what research has told us for a long time: 

Good friends / a community who is actively engaging and supporting one another = longer life. 

I may not know in this moment if my life will be long in its number of years, but I do know that my days have felt as wide and deep (as the ocean) since I recommitted to a new level of closeness with those still living. 

Treating them, maybe, as I would treat the very beloveds I lost (treating strangers throughout this time as if they, too, were the very ones I lost). 

Inc. Magazine recently shared a new study of 300,000 people and said the one secret, as they called it (not sure it’s so much a secret), to a healthier and longer life, goes back to the strength of the relationships we keep. 

But to keep them, of course, what’s inferred is that we get to nurture them more consistently by figuring out creative ways to be there (be there for *ourselves* through being there for others — and they also for us), no matter how busy life gets.

We have the ability to live long in so far as the number of years goes as well as draw out each of our days by feeding the connections that surround us.

The gorgeous woman in this photo is my cousin. She’s also my sister, my friend, a confidante and someone who, just three years before my brother Dino passed, lost her own beloved sister in an accident, too. I can also add a compassionate listener to the list.

A few weeks ago she saw her eldest off to college. She was feeling the rush of emotion, so I rushed to her…

For one day and night, two weeks in a row after he left, we were together at her home in the desert. Simple times and the best of times (during the second weekly visit ~ bubbly). 

She just left my house late this morning after being together yet again. 

And that’s what I’m after ~ the yet agains; being with those I care about yet again in the most quality (simplest) and meaningful of ways.

Are you after the yet agains with your beloveds also? Who would your post-it have on it?

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. Friendship Experiment livestream replay from my Alaska friend trip: bit.ly/2oC4b7V

Tough Note Re: Our Life Partners!

Choose a life partner who is high fun and low stress, who is supportive of what you most desire to create in this life, who shows you every day how important your joy is to them and who speaks to you lovingly, even (especially) during the harder times.

•••

You
are 
that 
life 
partner.

•••

No matter how fabulous, attentive, affectionate or committed they are, no friend, father, mother, cousin, husband, sister, grandparent, brother, son or daughter is in your life to make things ok.

You make things ok for you (or f’ing amazing) by taking responsibility for your evolution and for your daily peace and happiness…

They, all 10 on the list (or that one key figure in your life) may act like a cushion, but you’re the sofa…they may be delightful icing, but you’re the cake.

This isn’t called the bad news, it’s called the relief.

Your happiness isn’t dependent on how or what everyone else is doing or not doing for you (or where they are in the process of cleaning up their side of the street), it’s based on how you choose to be doing and how clean your side of it is…

Enjoying a relationship or asking someone to step up and grow with you is one thing (and/or making a decision to finally not commune with them if it’s clearly not the right fit), but making your life a daily roller coaster of emotions because no one is doing what they’re ‘supposed to’ is the opposite of living…

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. We will be closing the doors to the Ecstatic Experience Immersion day soon. So if you haven’t checked out what this full day in LA is about, you can click HERE to find out more!