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My “Only” Life (it’s not what you think)

I would’ve never thought 13 or 14 years ago that I would only be a mom once ~ one shot consciously chosen and where the outcome would be this beautiful being.

And, similarly, yet different at the same time, I could’ve never imagined the joy felt inside a 17-year marriage until being inside it. Another shot consciously chosen (not just when I met him while dating him or on 6.16.01, but every day anew choosing to create new things together — it may not be more babies, but there are other people and stuff to nurture and build).

I would’ve never…could’ve never…but in this lifetime, I have given myself (been given) both experiences — an only child and an only marriage — and they both have been lovely.

What are you grateful for today? 

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Keep Your Workouts Going (an idea)

The reason I go out of my way to keep my regular workouts on holiday, no matter how far I need to travel or how early I must rise before festivities start, is because I know I’ll then (continue to) go out of my way to live out dreams or other passions. 

After visiting the Cliffs of Moher, it poured — I wanted to sit, tea and read [did that later], but remembered what I also wanted (move this body in this particular way — I revel in it), so I drove 20 minutes mid-day to this (pictured). 

Because…to push those dreams or projects uphill or help them along as they coast (winning) downhill or hold them on the days when they are (or are not) working as we’d like…you need strength for that (& there’s no app for that).

It’s a *true trust test* — with yourself. Say that 5x really fast. 

It comes down to who you be and what you choose when external circumstances, say, the city, the people, the rain, the pocketbook, schedule etc. are tempting you to abandon what simple things you know makes for your content and expressive life.

It’s all connected. 

I’ve been an active woman for a long time, save for just before I got pregnant and a short stint in college not playing a sport, but I think many of us do find it getting harder to choose self in this way, specifically, when motherhood or business ownership or hormones are telling you that you might want to stay put.

I’m sure there’s something you enjoy doing…maybe it’s for your own physical or mental health or, maybe, even something you love to do with or for your family or romantic relationship, but, when things get shifted or shaken up, even the slightest, it’s the first thing to go —

Start doing *that* thing that you know for certain brings joy, no matter what, and do it as often as you think about it (it’s probably a lot more than you’re currently doing it), not just every now and again when it’s “convenient”.

Dreams aren’t convenient most days, weeks, months and years, either.

Make it fun — make it a challenge, a practice…an experiment to see what happens when you stop saying “tomorrow” to these moments you know you want…then, feel the satisfaction, trust and strength that will come internally and, how this thing you now do begins to not-so magically help you step into the larger projects, shaping your beautiful, creative and interested life (notice I didn’t say interesting, though that will happen, too). 

It’s THIS thing that you keep wanting to do more consistently daily or weekly (but don’t do) that is your driver or spark for the other larger stuff.

Legacy level passion is tied to a daily joy or passion. 

When you have the (an) idea, the desire or passion to do something inside, then don’t do it, over and over again, you, in essence, break your own heart ~ you break trust with yourself.  

The more we break trust with ourselves, the less that we end up believing that the life we want is there for us…

The less well we feel, the more defeated we feel and the less spark or gung-ho we continue to be for the bigger stuff or larger expressions we know we need to get after before we depart this planet.

To lose trust in ourselves makes us feel like we are losing or have already lost, but it’s not necessarily true. 

Gain the self-trust back with commitment and a devotion to your happiness in the simplest of ways and you’ll trust deeper in yourself to get after the harder, heavier or most meaningful stuff that’ll lead to a purpose-powered life.

Be like a dog on a bone with that (simple) everyday thing you love or wish to do. 

It’s not just a workout or a _______ or a ______ or a _______.

It’s tied to the things or experiences you most want — the self-realization, peace, and elation tied to the commitment and devotion to your greatest ideas.

So, be — 

Tenacious.

Persistent.

Because it’s these simple things that bring us joy (that simple thing ~> could be health-related as it is for me, in however you define health or movement for yourself) that can be the parallel passion needed to bring other grander ones to light…(match to flame). 

Stick with it, stay committed to what you want or to the way you want to feel and the more you’ll make good on the larger dreams, experiments, challenges or movements you want to build.

Keep building..self from all sides. 

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Mistakes (my essay on Karen Salmansohn’s site)

On my birthday this month, while I was traveling, Karen Barri Salmansohn, someone I love and respect and has mentored with — a magical being, wise woman, and writer extraordinaire with 1.5 million fans — published my essay “How To Stop Beating Yourself About Mistakes” on her site…

She’s a maestro of deep soul and sharp wit and I’m honored to share her stage (check out all the creative and life maximizing things she’s up to while you’re there).

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

LA for THIS in September!

The last year has been all about reinvention, well, maybe, more about an evolution of all parts of me as a woman, and then naturally, of the work I do, too. Boy, we’ve all been through so much collectively in the community as of late PLUS we’ve all been through a lot in our individual lives, too (I see you and know…I really know). Reinvention almost feels inevitable with all we’ve maneuvered and worked through, right?

But, like most reinventions, mine wasn’t overly planned. 

Yours doesn’t have to be either (I can’t wait to share the day we can spend together [BELOW] which may help you, not only “announce” your reinvention, but, in the creation of it, also support the growth of your evolved brand, business and, most importantly, your movement).

Since I knew things needed to change this last year (because I, myself, was changing), I committed to follow my gut/intuition and did what I felt a passion for in each waking moment (while trusting what was next would come) and continued to create opportunities and, most importantly, create experiences that would move me, my clients and my community. And the experiences did just that and I was better for it. So was the business and the women (and men) who benefited from each experience.

The Best Things in Life/Business

But the truth is (let’s get back to this) –> the best things in my life (or my business), in fact, have not been overly planned. Overly passioned, yes. But, being so “strict” on only the planning part (and not enough on the passion or purpose elements) does not for a content or purposeful entrepreneur make.

Long are the days when we only follow the strict or traditional ways that our industry says we “have to” grow a movement or business.

We must/we get/we have to follow what feels good to the soul, then add in strategy to THAT.

Don’t get me wrong, at each turn in life or business, once I realized I was onto something, I’d then get into planning and strategy mode.

And, ask anyone who knows me well, I love being in planning and strategy mode — it’s a huge part of my work. However, all that said, I have to allow things to flow and feel right before I commit to then really make it something

Do you know what I’m saying? 

And boy do I then go full in, in, in to make it so.

I know that much about myself.

You, too, know the parts of you that will always ACTIVATE themselves and come through when something is ALIGNED for you.

But it must be aligned, right? And, what I’ve seen over the last 16+ years throughout my work supporting women inside their signature brands and offerings is this: it’s this same drive, energy or ability that helps create the most distinct offerings and experiences. All of the above has always supported me and definitely has the last ten months creating eight (8) transformative experiences with many moving parts in LA, NYC and SF (you’ll find some photos of the experiences sprinkled below).

I’m happy to say, while I’m writing to you from Paris, where today, I’m making an experience of my birthday*, that reinvention is a success. Reinvention is the full expression of who we are (*as my birthday gift to you, I’m creating this beautiful one day experience [as something affordable] for eight women (it was going to be five, but I increased the number as of late). 

Your Next Branded Experience

Your offerings need not simply be delivered behind the screen or over the phone. 

–> Throughout this year of evolving more deeply into my gifts, desire and genius is supporting you in getting out there LIVE and creating in-person experiences that you eventually become known for (you want to be known for results and the experiential does that; they create results!).

What moves people and transforms them are exactly that, experiential moments, those that YOU can now begin to create or make a bigger part of your work. 

Make them a bigger part of your work and expression!

What I’m trying to say is that it’s time for a type of reinvention with the way we all deliver our services and, specifically, the way we serve up the human connection, high touch flair, and the meaningful connections we are craving in this world.

This is exactly what I was driven by as I planned these eight transformative events known as the Creative Heroine Experience, High Touch and the Greater Good Party over the last year.

I was driven by putting my signature on these experiences in a unique, push the industry way and, more importantly, I also wanted to commune with more and more people while enjoying delivering my work, education, insight, and ideas for how to live purposefully, how to express more of all of ourselves (not just parts) for further connection and engagement, as well as for emotional and business growth. 

Commune with more people — what a novel idea in our high tech world! (-:

 This is my home when welcoming new clients…

WE CAN’T REINVENT, HELP OTHERS TRANSFORM OR WOW ANYONE (not even ourselves) SIMPLY SITTING BEHIND OUR COMPUTERS.

ECSTATIC EXPERIENCE IMMERSION DAY*
Saturday, September 29, 2018

9:30pm – 5:30pm 
Working lunch 
+ VIP dinner as a group as the finale 
(details to come about lunch & dinner)

My Home,
Los Angeles, California 
*EIGHT SPOTS AVAILABLE

 Greater Good Party, Bay Area

In this full-day immersion, you will:1. LEARN THE FRAMEWORK. Learn my creative framework or approach for a killer, outside-the-(industry) box event (do strategy do opposite, look to other industries) that elevates your brand, wows attendees and helps them begin to transform what they would, in essence, be shifting in working with you.

2. CLARITY ON YOUR BIG IDEA. Gain clarity on your big idea for your own Ecstatic Experience, no matter how small, medium or big you want to create it. (I will help to condense your million ideas to one industry-changing one or shift your response of “…but I have no idea yet” to “now I do!!!”). Together, we will come up with not only the brilliant, outside-the-box idea but decide the purpose or goal for the event from a brand and business perspective which will determine if the experience is a paid or complimentary/ sponsored event as well as all the various specifics of the event, from start to finish.

3. CHOOSE A DATE AND LOCALE & REVERSE ENGINEER TO PLANNING AND DAY-OF SUCCESS. Choose a date to deliver the experience (and your special sauce/genius) with the intention of it being a transformative experience with results for all in attendance. With the date in mind, you will also walk out with the reverse-engineered plan for what you will need to do each month, week as well as the last three weeks leading up to your Ecstatic Experience (I’ve learned, time and time again, both planning the eight experiences this last year, as well as all the mastermind retreats for my clients that the last three weeks make all the difference to your stress level and polish on day-of). 

4. INTEGRATING ALL OF YOU + SURPRISES. In dividing the day into three soulful and distinct, helpful parts (this is a surprise and there will BE surprises!), you will also leave with a solid idea of how to more fully integrate or incorporate ALL of who you are…your creative self, multi-passionate, multi-faceted and spiritual self. Your Ecstatic Experience will only be as good as you, (the real, humanYOU) is ecstatic and we know that comes about with allowing yourself the clarity and freedom to express all sides of yourself: your life experience (we all have a story), professional expertise, values, core passion, natural genius, desire to contribute (let’s find a way to serve the greater good with your experience) and, in short, expressing your higher calling through your business.

ECSTATIC EXPERIENCE IMMERSION DAY*
Saturday, September 29, 2018
9:30pm – 5:30pm 

Investment: $697 [the buttons below lead you to a link for a $297 deposit which will claim your seat; the remaining $400 will be due on August 22nd].

IMPORTANT B-DAY GIFT/NOTE: As briefly mentioned on 7/9, my birthday gift to you is making this an affordable (and amazing) experience! For perspective, my private VIP days at my home are normally $3997. 

The Creative Heroine Experience, LA

This immersion day is for the multi-faceted woman who feels restless between adventures (this is also me, so I hear you), the woman who wants to bring together all her abilities and experiences to CREATE one that elevates her brand and creates a new path for her movement to take a nice, long walk.  

It’s for the woman who:

  • is ready to create her first or her next LIVE and in person event that doesn’t feel like an event, but rather, is an experience!
  • wants business and all of life to feel LIKE an adventure, for her AND for her clients (hello to the creation of her own Ecstatic Experience!)
  •  will not settle for less
  • has maybe been “away” as a result of heartbreak, loss, divorce or a 9-5 and would benefit from a “comeback” event essentially saying “I”m here world”…it’s also for the woman who has been at the entrepreneurial thing for a while and has already experienced success in her business and simply wants to elevate that success to a new level.
  • feels the need to infuse new life into her business or movement…
  • has a desire to step into the next evolution of her business (I’ve been in business 17 years and have experienced approximately five evolutions of the same business, the latest one expressing itself in the here and now)
  • wants to create and be known for something creative and different, but effortlessly and with purpose.
  • is restless between adventures! (Did I mention that already? :-)).

Let’s create inside the Ecstatic Experience Immersion Day so that you feel as if you’re living inside your next big adventure or creative challenge!

Love

I can’t wait to welcome you in, Creative Heroine!

If you have questions for me/us, let me know, ok?

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. To claim your spot (eight total available), you can make your $297 deposit of the total $697 Ecstatic Experience birthday rate (as mentioned, my birthday gift to you is the lower investment for this boutique high-touch experience at my home. ENJOY, and that you will, Creative Heroine!).