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Dalai Lama’s Right Hand Man (and What to Practice While Brushing)

About a month after getting back from India, the majority of us who visited privately with His Holiness started a training on compassion (this morning was the second meeting).

The course was created by Tibetan Buddhist Scholar and His Holiness the Dalai Lama’s principal translator of 30 years, Geshe Thupten Jinpa (we were also honored to learn from Jinpa while at the monastery).

The current training begins inside mindfulness, some reminders to us inside our ongoing practices and some new (the course is lovely and deep).

One of the reminders via some reading given to us was this: the more our minds are anchored in the present moment (learning/practicing mindfulness and meditation, for example), the longer our telomeres are.

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And the longer they are, “the longer the organism’s life span is” (organism = our cells and ultimately us).

This photo was after another nap on the monastic camp that Harmonica, Inc. and my dear friend Katy Saeger created on the first Tibetan Settlement in India after His Holiness’ exile (incredible to sleep under the stars and witness the sunrises here).

One example of the daily homework given to us in the course: as you brush your teeth, notice what you’re thinking about (where does your mind wander?) and pay more attention, perhaps, to all the senses available to *as* you brush…a simple practice like this brings you back to the present.

I’m continually grateful for lightnessand for being able to continually brush up on these practices…

Happy Tuesday!
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#happybrushing

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Weekend PSA for Mamas

Weekend PSA for mamas feeling their kid’s transition from kid to teen or to more full teen/young adult…

They’re now, not only making plans without us, they’re making plans we don’t even know about until last minute.

They’re starting to test out all their unique powers (making their own plans is one) and exercise independence and that feeling of freedom we ALL love.

They’re starting/continuing their (own) lives — the way it’s supposed to be and exactly what we wanted to do at their age.

I hear from many friends how hard this time of letting go is and know the feeling myself.

It’s a transition for our kids (both exciting and tough for them, if we’re honest), but it’s most definitely a transition and a new season for us, too (more tough than exciting for us, depending on where we fall on the spectrum that day).

But what I’ve experienced is that I feel the change or loss way less (if at all anymore) when he’s sharing himself with me, stories, thoughts, etc —> so the question is/was, how to get him, not just to talk more, but to share about this life of his (it IS his) —

And not because I am being what would have been called nosy in our own teen years (though, yes, I want to keep him safe), but because I want to keep AND create a new relationship with him, one I’ll want to evolve and dance with until the last day I breathe on this earth and then beyond here, too.

Oh yes, beyond the here, too!

We don’t have to lose our closeness with them — if anything, as parents we can, both organically/naturally and also consciously or strategically create space for something new.

(They want to feel space)

So how do we give it to them and, in the process, create something awesome?

In my world, it’s come from me asking less questions and giving him more answers about myself and about my own life.

How my day is going, what I’m excited or worried about, what’s going right, what I feel is not going so right that I’m working on, essentially, how I would talk to a trusted friend (age-appropriate here and there, but mainly human-to-human appropriate). Over and over again.

I stumbled upon it in a sense. I love to feel connected to the people I love and knew that in these other relationships this came through me sharing more of myself, so that’s what I did even more with him this latest season…

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I’ve done a version of it since he was little, but have upped the ante again since starting high school.

Lo and behold, the more I share about myself and the less I ask about him, the more he shares and shares and shares and shares…

And then, naturally, the more I started to ask him about this or that and receive answers (receive and feel connection, I can feel it fills him deeply, too). He was and is excited to share ~ to be seen, heard and witnessed.

Who doesn’t love that?

Because at the end of the day, it’s not just what we want, it’s what they want to…we all want and need connection, quality attention placed on our stories and feelings, inside SPACE that feels that way {spacious} and without judgement (key)— as in any relationship, romantic, platonic or professional, we sometimes need to get creative (code for — start sharing more of ourselves).

Enjoy your weekend with your people!

[Skiing together a few weeks ago…he said the sun was in his eyes,🌞💛🧑🏻🗣👩🏻].

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Shooting Today (and Re-invention!)

I’ve found that as women we “reinvent” ourselves by not necessarily reinventing in the traditional sense that might point to being someone different, but we reinvent by actually letting out what’s been in us all along.

What I said to my client and dear friend Lindsey this morning connects back to this ~ what we’re doing today in this first shoot for Take a Thought and Run With It , I said, was started long ago…it was started in your heart, inside your innate talents & creativity and within the truth of your life experience(s), those from long ago and most recently, too (both the tough and the joyous experiences).

That she is saying yes to working with it all (to, essentially, letting more of that full self out which has only shown her more fully, too, to the people, places and opportunities that were meant to be for a more full exploration of life) is helping humanity in the process and has already helped many heal as she heals, too (I believe we are “healing” all the time). 

So that today’s a big day, yes, and today is also quite simply a continuation of who she is and has always been…

I’m proud and honored to be part of this brilliant woman’s life and project.

I heard this in a dream a couple years ago “it’s only when you show who you really are that more is revealed” and boy has it been true, both for myself and the women I commune with.

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Happy International Women’s Day!

Today has shined a bright light on the fact that as women, we don’t need the full 24 hours.

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We got it and got you in 23. And though this may feel like it only applies to those of us ladies living in the United States, Canada and parts of Mexico (since daylight savings starts for us today and we technically lost one hour), this goes for every woman everywhere.

Our abilities are as deep and wide as the ocean and it’s fun as hell to go out into the world and think, speak and act as such…

Happy International Women’s Day!

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Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur