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She Let Go

Enjoy one of my favorite poems of all times…here’s to giving yourself the gift of letting go…

There’s only one guru ~ you.
She Let Go

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of fear. She let go of the judgments.
She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.
She let go of the committee of indecision within her.
She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely,
without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a
book on how to let go… She didn’t search the scriptures.
She just let go.

She let go of all of the memories that held her back.
She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.
She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go.
She didn’t journal about it.
She didn’t write the projected date in her day-timer.
She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.
She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.
She just let go.

She didn’t analise whether she should let go.
She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.
She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.
She didn’t call the prayer line.
She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.
No one was around when it happened.
There was no applause or congratulations.
No one thanked her or praised her.
No one noticed a thing.

Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort. There was no struggle.
It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.
It was what it was, and it is just that.
In the space of letting go, she let it all be.
A small smile came over her face.
A light breeze blew through her.
And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.
(Rev. Safire Rose)

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

From Real Life to Real Business

You know that feeling you feel with your best friends? And you know the feeling they feel with you?

That’s called being your full self and being genuine.

How can you bring more of that into the types of relationships you think maybe “should“ be different ~ your business relationships and your brand expression namely?

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur

On Being Adopted

One of my all-time favorite memories is not one memory, persay, but a series of the same brand of memory that ran in my life for many years:

My soon-to-be Dad at 12 years old (and on) never calling me his stepdaughter. 

That’s it, that’s the memory. I guess the flip to that — to him NOT calling me his stepdaughter — is that he proudly called me his daughter even before he made the move to adopt me (which he did a few years later). 

The *proudly* bit being one of the most important bits to this particular story I’m telling today on my Dad’s birthday.

Happy Birthday, Dad! 

When you feel someone’s decision ~ their devotion ~ it changes everything.

I’m 45, and to this day, can feel what a mark this, his love shown in this particular way, in those pre-teen years, left on me. 

Not just knowing or seeing that you have love or family intellectually or on paper, but *feeling* that you’re a part of something is not just a gift given one time, but it’s where a rebirth or life begins for all of us, no matter if we’re a kid or an adult. 

Each year, this week also always beautifully happens to bring my company/work anni [MGI is 18 years old this week].

As I write this, in honor of my Dad, I must say this about leaving your mark (“branding”, part of my chosen work, as I’ve learned over the last 18 years is so much more, special or better than the word implies) ~ this entire life is about leaving a mark in the way we express values inside the way we communicate with and to others (to baristas, cashiers, other strangers, clients, daughters, sons, fathers or mothers etc), in the way we open and honestly tell the story of humanity (ours in particular, but others’ stories too, especially those with no voice), how consistently we treat or show UP [and UP] for people when others aren’t watching and how in integrity we are with what we think, do and say in both private and public time.

In the business and non-business world, we complicate things, but as I’ve learned from Papo (our name/endearment for him since grandkids arrived), it’s all about relationship…and, as I’ve folded into this business-turned-higher calling over the last six years or so, helping women, not just create a ‘brand identity’ that makes people feel like they’ve known her forever, but helping us get to know ourselves spiritually even more deeply through nature and the (super) natural and via the generosity felt through service, so everything in our lives works or ticks even more smoothly or elegantly, is as vital). 

If we can think of growth in any one part of our lives this way…that it’s about relating and doing the work it takes to get to know both ourselves *and* that special someone in front of us, this thing we call success or happiness or peace will always be ours (it was never not ours).

Though so much has changed in our family, one thing will never change and that’s the love I have for how my identity, expressed and felt spiritually, didn’t begin with a name, but with my Dad’s family love. 

Today, I celebrate his resilient heart, fun/light-hearted ways and how we are continuing to get to know the new people who have emerged in recent years in equally new ways! 

Boy (my original last name) do fathers/dads/papas/papos mean so very much…xo.

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur

Don’t Take It Personal, Mom!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It felt so good to know who & what was waiting at base camp for me in July (my loving guides, sustenance, safety, guidance, companionship etc.) —⁣

For the three days and three nights I continued to fast solo on my vision quest, it added to my settled nature and feelings of ease and  joy, both of which I experienced much of up there, knowing that my guides (and supplies) were there for me should I need them. ⁣

It hit me recently that this is exactly what we are to our teenagers ~ a base camp. A place to refuel and recharge and a place that’s always there, no matter how bad the weather gets.⁣

It’s the place they can count on to be there with guidance (here’s how to get there, hey, take this with you and here’s how to navigate this or that to keep yourself safe or grounded), with endless supplies (lotttts of food and root beer floats) and to be there, not just as a symbol of warmth, but an active representation of it, both in the human and comfy, clean cotton sheet variety. ⁣

All of it adding, hopefully, to their feelings of being more able to meet the wild ways of the big world out there or — of the big world inside themselves they are just as wildly maneuvering.⁣

They may or may not act like they need this ‘should they need it’ base camp often or that they’re happy to have it, but that’s simply because most of their brain and emotional power is going to understanding who they are right now, who others think they are and to deciding if they like any of it or not. ⁣

As real and as natural as the animals in the forest are or the ability of weather, like human personalities, to shift in a matter of seconds, they’re — as genuinely — going through a lot.⁣

It’s true, they may not need us in the ways they once did, and they may be more quiet overall (which may feel like it complicates connection), but as long as we keep the light on for them at base camp and give them some extra matches in all the ways shared above to be able keep their own lights on, we are doing right by them. ⁣

They’ll “come back to us” more fully eventually, but need to be given to themselves right now because teenagehood — > it’s one of the more challenging vision quests around. ⁣

[Sleeping bag shot before we left on our solo journeys + bear-proof food bags high up in the tree, all at base camp + watercolor that someone made me, xo]⁣

#visionquester⁣
#creativeheroine⁣
#brandofwoman

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur