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Stop Hiding Your Body

As women we sometimes shy away from printing or showing photos like these because, well, we always think there’s something to fix, filter or crop from our bodies, but I ran across this one from our December trip yesterday and loved it (again) for it all represents…

Our bodies (and the body of work known as our life) are beautiful because they’re ours and they’ve helped us get many places, learn (and re-learn) many things and do many things while experiencing our many senses…

To me, this photo, more than anything screams, “Look, look at ALL this life we get to live, the miles we get to traverse daily to make the best of each day, relationship, perceived problem and opportunity, looook and look closely and precisely…look again and again, don’t take anything you have emotionally, physically or spiritually for granted because it was all granted specifically to you in exactly the way it was to uniquely DO, BE and FEEL with — plus you likely worked hard for those emotional, physical and spiritual gifts.”

We have these bodies on lease to us for a time, we can’t hold onto them forever, so, do, be, be, do, be, be, do, do (and stop being so shy about sharing who you really are, what you truly think or what you really look like).

As an Indian proverb says, let’s die while we’re still alive! 

#creativeheroine
#brandofwoman
#visionquester

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

 

 

Two Things to Feel Good!

Two things are responsible for the peace felt inside self and inside my relationships…

1) Working to find the higher or highest truth, regardless if I’ll find that I’m “right” or not 

and

2) Speaking my truth/using my voice to speak to my values, beliefs or boundaries (in love).

Love is always working through each.

What makes you feel genuinely good and how can you do more of that

How is love working through YOU?

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

My Funny Valentine

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Twenty two years ago we were on a “I wouldn’t want you to think I was asking you out FOR Valentine’s Day, but why don’t you come over and I’ll make you dinner ON that day” date (he actually said that — or similar).

It was a fabulous night, complete with a kiss by the sink as I helped wash dishes — all minus the dance and the goof, but, don’t you worry, that came quick, ha.

Today, we’re more direct (and even more goofy) and much of it is because so much real love and life has happened that’s helped to bond us and motivate us to keep turning on the light (saying yes to personal or individual growth being 🔑).

This was fun to do last night (turned on the camera with no plan for how the dance would go, but did try to learn the lyrics (it’s Love Never Felt So Good by MJ & JT, in case it got muted by FB in some countries) a couple nights ago—if you make it to the end of the video, you’ll see a clip of us trying to do that before bed) AND — I love that we’ve also seen each other through all the days that make you weak at the knees, either because you’re weakest at the moment (weak knees) or you’re the one carrying the weakest (also weak knees).

That he knows the full, real me (part of her is here in this video) and that I genuinely know the real him (ditto) is a privilege, life-affirming, even creative.

It’s all real —

I’ve seen him throw up in a planter when the news of my brother was shared with us that early morning in Miami, he took extra time off work to help me weather post-partum depression while living overseas (rough seas for this new mama), I‘ve seen him through three job losses, he’s been there while I grew confused and stuffed some of my grief, or throughout the many new and painful normals in my family (still going), through me texting or calling him at work (again and again) telling him how I almost accidentally called my Mom again or how much I was pained that day by my family unit deteriorating after the deaths…I’ve seen how quiet he gets when he’s worried about his Dad’s health and how deeply it pains him to have to make tough decisions that affect people he appreciates because of financials at work (again, how quiet he gets)…we’ve seen each other sweat before, during and after eight moves with two being international, as well as throughout 10 years of not knowing what was wrong with Nolan neurologically in sleep or with my arm or his heart incident or or or…

(And that’s it) You can create what you want to be part of at every unexpected shuffle OR leave it up to chance, to the wind, to…?

As with all couples, everything from that first San Francisco date to the dance here to the stained cry face or faces, to the impatience because of grief, the stress because of having a job or not having one or any other bruised or skinned knee situation, is real and real love.

It’s not solely the sweet (or sweet-looking), but the sweat that is worthy of being touched or of being looked at with a smile, again and again — and of being talked about more, given a platform to stand on, both publicly and privately…

It’s ultimately what feels most healing (because it’s honest), what feels bonding & sexy (ode to shared vulnerability), and what feels purposeful (because diamonds ~> formed under pressure).

💦❤️💎💃🏽

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Nine Days in the Wild (what he said to me)

I’ve realized over the last year that you’re much more than my mama.

That’s what he said to me while I was bent down hugging and kissing him goodnight in July.

I had just gotten back from nine days in the wild where four of those were fasted days, just water, and three days and three nights sans anyone around 🐻🦁or much to do, but love up on the sights around me (I moved/walked a total of 10-20 feet max per day as I was light-headed, with little energy, only compounded, of course, by being 7,000+ feet up).

It was only me (time and time again, doing my own thing, I realize that you and I, are not “only me” but A LOT — we have a lot, and enough, within ourselves), a sleeping bag, a blow up pillow, two tea lights, matches, a toothbrush, un-scented toothpaste (because~>🐻) a journal, pen, salt for my water (if I needed it), two jackets, other clothing items and a head lamp.

I’ve told close friends what Nolan said to me that night many times, and, more times than this actual recalling or recounting to others, I’ve let his words sink into the deepest crevasses of my awareness.

…this awareness of him, of his own awareness of the world and of WHO Josh and I truly ARE outside of “his parents”, connected to that, an awareness of what he needs from me/society/the world…also — an awareness, of course, of who I am at my core, separate from titles, responsibilities, trials, joys even — that pure unfiltered essence or truth.

He — the experience inside our relationship — has allowed and bled beautifully into truth.

It’s opened what high truth, individuality and relationship means in my life, especially as we each grow in height or heart or awareness even more.

This relationship with him (and the one with self which you can’t separate from a relationship with another) has helped to create all of
T H A T.

I wrote to him in a text recently: I love you, Nolan Luc Mandel. I appreciate the space you hold for me to share and be who I am, all of me, thank you.

All of me, THANK YOU.

#allofHIM
#beallofyou
#nohiding (🐻🦁)
#mywishletlooseontheworld

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur