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This Isn’t Mainstream!

One thing I don’t talk about much is the #friendshipexperiment I have going on with these two…one of the best yet.

It’s not mainstream, but it is real.

I’ve shared that over the last year and a half or so, I’ve recommitted to getting on planes, trains and automobiles or to writing the letters or having the conversations that need to happen to go to the places, physical and emotional, where my loved ones, family and friends, live and where we both feel most ALIVE ~ inside new memories.

Goodbye, text messages.

See you, email.

Hello to seeing those we love (*going* to see those we love) in new ways and with newfound energy (this was one of the reasons we started the Greater Good Party — to get people out from behind technology, true connection ~> better life).

The Friendship Experiment has been an incredible journey ~ one that’s had powerful effects on all parts of my life, in LA and beyond…brand new and ridiculously meaningful friendships seemingly came out of nowhere, powerful ideas for continued community building that have had far-reaching consequences and direction for how to infuse everythinggggg, personally or professionally, with more meaning.

As I wrote this I was on a plane right now headed for new memories with another special someone on the original post-it note I told you about a while ago.

I’ve also shared before that one of my greatest friendship experiments to date has been with my son (my sun), as well as with my first friend and brother Willie ~ both of these “experiments” or deepening of relationship have been smoothing out my crinkles and wrinkles. 😉

Ever since our two beloveds passed, my brother and I have genuinely found each other in a new way. The whole truth and nothing but the truth about the friendship experiment?

Recommitment to people, our people, and all people/humanity is one’s joy (and more fulfillment, success, and effortlessness in all areas of life).

Where we can genuinely recommit and stay committed, we find life, purpose and the creative energy to make our words, plans and actions match up to who we actually are and are capable of.

A more full potential.
A more full life.

Another relationship or experiment that’s going strong is the connection, as alive as the two mentioned above, that I have going with my Mom and youngest baby bird, Dino.

I speak to them (all the time), I close my eyes in yoga and say hi, I thank them after yoga, they meet me in my meditations and in short dreams that tell the long and true story of never having lost or been disconnected from them, as well as come to share in strong and obvious messages from others.

We’re always plugged in. All of us — to whomever and whatever is important.

We simply need to acknowledge it (them) by creating new paths or avenues, you know, opening *space* for it or them to land…

And the mantra that’s helped keep and grow the new friendships with my beloved Mom and baby bird?

Day or month after month, “I’m listening, no matter how subtle, I’m listening, tell me, show me….”

Over and over again.

That’s what recommitment is. Doing the thing over and over again knowing that when you show up so do they…so do they!

(-:

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Me & Don Johnson circa 1987!

This photo was taken on the same trip I wrote those exact words in a journal/album where I was keeping all my hopes and dreams.

With my curved, shy shoulders and nervous hands, you wouldn’t know it (my Oma/grandma had just *forced* me under police tape to take this picture with Don Johnson — embarrassing), but I had started doing talent/modeling work and was convinced I would be the next star on a show similar to Who’s the Boss (who I am kidding ON Who’s the Boss, taking over the show).

So cute.

Kids. They’re awesome. You don’t really have to tell them or remind them to dream or dream big, because more important even than being natural dreamers, they are natural believers! This is one of the most important things to remind them ~> that’s the first step to having it manifest in your life…to believe.

I love this 12-year-old girl with what I *believe* are clip-on earrings so much.​

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

My Poem For You (if feeling rough, definitely OPEN)

May that flow

May that peace flow into the work you do in the world.

May your relationships be filled with the kind of peace that becomes the golden thread known as your life.inspire the steady stream of true, kind and compassionate words that cross your lips.

May you cross arms around loved ones often, keeping physical touch high on your get to do list. May you also cross many borders, emotional and physical, making friends and opening the mind.

May you not mind the sun kissing your sweet face (it will often) and may you face all that comes with the grace of a golden Buddha.

Happy trails to you!

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

My First Honora Salon (+ tip for you)

This is not a picture of the event I hosted last night. I’ll tell you about this photo in a minute, but for those of you who read about it when I posted yesterday, the very first Honora Evening Salon started and ended as I had envisioned it: a lovely, real, raw and moving event honoring our departed beloveds.

There was sound healing, meditation, song + more by the talented Nish Fox, then a sharing of writings I had asked everyone to prepare, storytelling + more…

What started out as an idea to honor my Mom, throw her a little birthday party (it was her day yesterday), grew into so much more.

What I shared with two clients today: when you have an idea that bubbles inside that’s so clearly aligned with the evolution of who you are today or of your work in the world, an idea that wants to GO, follow it. Don’t overthink or overjudge, just DO yourself a favor.

Do…

Because when you follow what’s meant to be (which is why it feels the way it does when it first lands in you), it does exactly that ~ the [super aligned] thing you started grows into more. Always!

One big thing that caught our attention last night and the real reason I’m writing is that of the women who were here honoring a person, a physical loss (there were various other types of loss present), 90% of them — of us — had lost mothers. Mothers.

This gets me all over again.

Seeing all the beautiful photos and one CA driver’s license of a sweet mama (-; on the altar was striking.

Mothers.

Most all of them.

Our lifelines.

Whether we had a good or a challenging relationship with her (or the person who was our main nurturer or mama figure), most in attendance would have agreed that you feel a lifeline being severed very much, no matter what.

I personally described it like a floating balloon. Untethered. Like –you can be in a room full of people or have a great, affectionate partner you live with or really enjoy the close bond between you and your child, but because your mother is no longer of this earth, you feel alone.

It’s a curious thing. I never thought that’s how I’d describe it, but it’s true, totally and completely real and true. We each agreed.

Ode to the importance of mothers or mother figures…to how important key nurturers are to our existence, both the physical, emotional and spiritual kinds of existence.

And not just parents, but true nurturers, those who are present with us, who work to understand us and our love language, parents who we’re creating new memories with, no matter how simple or small or how far apart those times physically come (or came), but always trusting they *would* come and bring about joy feelings.

Hearing the women speak so beautifully of their mothers last night was profound. It touched a part of my soul that will continue to live and mother even more aware tonight, tomorrow and tomorrow’s tomorrow…

This is a photo of Nolan and me the other afternoon.

We’ve been chatting a lot lately about what it means to be close and have a meaningful relationship in his teens and, really, throughout his life.

Our latest chats have, specifically, been about physical affection and following up seeing someone with loving eyes (those moments you’re filled with appreciation or love for someone) with showing them how you feel in a physical way, with affection.

A hand on the shoulder, a playful tickle (he’s good at those, though they’ve started to really hurt, love hurts), a hug…you know, not being afraid to complete the circle we so often don’t or didn’t when we were younger, because we thought it wasn’t cool or accepted.

I said there will be times (shh, they’re already here) where you’ll feel that you want to be affectionate with us (or anyone, really), but where your next decision will be not to do it.

Breakthrough that emotional barrier and just see how it feels to do what the initial love, kindness or closeness was moving you to do. (And this goes for us adults, too!).

It’s sweet — ever since we had this specific chat (there have been a few of them about affection now), he’s been more expressive physically. It’s like he gave himself permission to at least do that ~ to test it out. And keep testing.

This was us waiting in line to get him a burrito after school. There was a stool I sat on while we waited in line and as we stood there, he came over a couple steps and rested his head, his 13-year-old, I shave now head, on my shoulder.

We hugged for a good 15-20 seconds.

My heart melted, expanded, and created three new rooms and five new penthouse suites and I snapped this shot because I wanted to remember what conversation and playfulness does forever…

This love…
forever.

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur