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Hit Unsubscribe to This (Five visibility / authenticity tips)

As a spiritually-motivated woman, writer, creative and success coach whose sweet spot (and past experience in advertising — got milk? being one of my longest-standing accounts) lies in helping multi-passionate– or polymath — female entrepreneurs and execs re-brand and reinvent themselves.

I often talk about sharing the multi-passionate and multi-dimensional you (unapologetic expression), about relating to others as well as to your perceived or “real” problems, about trusting yourself and creativity…

Today, as my husband, Josh, and I sat out front at lunch watching Malcolm Gladwell’s masterclass on writing (we highly recommend it), I thought about the one thing that makes all those “categories” or practices work better. 

In other words, the thing that assists us in feeling like we’re being more honest to all of it/to our own life and that is simply: every day, bit by bit, unsubscribing from the way others are doing it. 

Learn from others, yes, but when it starts to quiet your own unique voice or expression and, therefore, makes it so you can’t see your own path, stop or pause most of it (hiding from your uniqueness makes it so successful, too, will elude you) —

1…unsubscribe from many of the items/things/people that come into your inbox, your home or energetic space, especially those things, courses, newsletters or people you’ve known haven’t been serving your highest good (in order to do great good, we need to be prioritizing our own highest good). 

2…strategize your social media intake by unfollowing, de-friending or making it so the topics or people that genuinely align or support you [fill vs deplete you] take up prime real estate (“see first” is an awesome feature).

3…de-friend the quiet, but very loud, “I can’t” or “…but I’m not ready” words spoken to yourself weekly and adopt or use this as your next thought ~> “I trust myself to figure it out or to recover if I fall.” 

4…turn off the notifications on your phone and, at the same time, turn off the need, little by little, to be everything to everyone. Kindness does not mean leave yourself little to no breathing room, with depleted energy or with no time on your own calendar…it’s yours, book yourself in first. 

5…notify those closest to you, from a place of clarity and excitement, how your perspective has changed and, therefore, what new ways of communicating feel best to you right now (six months ago, I told many of the people and friends who use texting as their main form of communication to email me instead. Not surprisingly, I got more of my life back). 

And — in now YOUR newfound spare time:

— > go even more high touch while still living high tech (we have to actively search out the old school to feel more connected to ourselves and others), 

— > enjoy giving time to those subjects and people you’ve been running from or impatient to because you’ve been inundated (literally)…

— > and when in doubt, keep asking yourself, what is it that wants to go…what projects…people…next steps that I now have emotional and physical time for are begging for me to take them or BE taken by them?

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. Keep your eyes peeled for the latest creative offering for polymath women desiring to be known for their ideas (vs. just having them) coming your way!

This Woman is Transforming GRIEF

The gifts from the Creative Heroine Experience keep on giving. And giving (it feels so good to give :-)).

Today, I remember my friend Christina Rasmussen on stage sharing her path of being a creator ~> of victor, not victim ~ and it moving everyone to both laugh and cry. Boy is she FUNNY (wisdom and light does that).

Her story of losing her husband and raising her two daughters is moving. And what she’s done since the loss in raising these beautiful souls, as well as how she is revolutionizing the grief industry is cause for celebration. She’s the epitome of living boldly after loss.

Her Life Reentry Model, a regally radical model of grieving based in neuroscience and her thoughts around the “waiting room” that many experiencing grief find themselves in supports many, many people these days in stepping into their most fruitful beginnings after loss.

Her book Second Firsts is remarkable at assisting you to forge a new life (check it out for yourself or a friend).

I invited this gorgeous woman to speak at my event for a few reasons — one because, as mentioned, her wisdom, creativity, and work changing the grief industry is top notch AND because she was one of the last people to speak to my Mom before she passed.

You wouldn’t think the latter would qualify as an important prerequisite for a presenter, but for me, the reasons you do something in business or at an event that represents what you stand for are not one-sided (lopsided). Bring all of you to EVERYthing you do, say and show (Christina feels this way, too, so we’re a good match, xo).

It felt important to me to showcase her work as it aligns with who the Creative Heroine is (the woman who moves from problem to solution to express who she really is), as well as to honor the love she showed to my Mom in her last months of life.

After two years of the intense grief felt of losing my brother in a car accident, my Mom was searching (as many feeling deep pain are) and after sharing Christina’s work, she was even more motivated to keep going and reached out to Christina to start working with her. She never got there but I don’t doubt the connection made with Christina filled her up in a new way. It’s tough not to feel that way after meeting Christina.

In short, I can’t help but see this as one of many gifts given at CHE in March: the reminder that there can be a big, bold life waiting for you after loss and…to bring all of you to everything you do.

Thank you again, dear Christina ~ for loving my Mama and loving us ALL at the Creative Heroine Experience.

And to all Creative Heroines, enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. HERE is our Run of Show for all the presenters and a little about their work in the world. Follow them now! 🙂 

What I Stopped Doing that Made Me More Creative


Part of being “creative” or able to create solution/soul-ution (not just someone who has ideas but is known *for* them) or, in other words, innovating and leading in an industry comes down to what and whom you’re giving your energy to. 

If you want to create anew and reinvent yourself or breathe new valuable life into an industry or part of society, you can not be a giver to the wrong people in your daily life. 

Don’t confuse nice with true giving. Being nice is opening the door for someone when they’re walking out of the same building, true giving requires thought and energy from physical, emotional and spiritual bodies (not everyone will be able to receive from you — be selective so you have the bandwidth to more gracefully select and stick with the creative challenges or projects you’ll work on to better the world around you). 

Most everyone deserves nice. Everyone isn’t whom you truly and fully give to.

As a creator and a natural giver, surround yourself with others who are givers (who lift mood, energy and lift YOU up) and where there’s an energy exchange that allows you both to do what you do best and let go of the rest.

Be forgiving to the people and projects who are aligned with your values, beliefs and passions — and — be forgiving of yourself for the countless times you put others first who kept showing you that your creative energy was meant to go elsewhere.

Do what grows your natural exuberance and conserve the energy that comes from it. You’ll need lots of it where you’re going.

[Shown here: Paige Bradley, master and world-renowned sculptor at The Creative Heroine Experience whose piece “Expansion” went viral…she had women crying (and crazily writing notes) on 3/3/18, xo.]

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. I’m taking on three new private clients to move from having the idea to birthing the idea. As I said above, move from having ideas to being known for them. If you’d like to hear more about the work we could do together, simply email us back and Susan will send you the daring details. xo

Are You Frida or Audrey?


Frida, artist-turned-activist and Audrey actress-turned-“voice of the children” humanitarian… different women, but to solution (soul-ution), they had a very similar heart and soul.

They charged forward making moves in a myriad of ways from pain (Frida in regards to her physical pain, especially, but beyond, too)…from problem to solution and, devoted a big part of their creative lives, to help others do the same.

You can have it all. You can heal, you can create for yourself or your family and, in the process, creatively and effortlessly also find ways to fill the needs of complete strangers…friends you haven’t met yet.

Audrey once said, “I’d like to do whatever I want all day long” and that simple saying’s ability to speak to each of our untapped greatness is rich…

Where one day long ago doing what I wanted may have meant eating bonbons, today it’s about using creativity (we are all born with it) for great good and showing women how to express more of who they are in business and life by way of bringing their “crazy” (change-making, culture-making, industry-innovating) ideas to life.

When I asked the talented graphic artist known as Hill Young (thank you, Hill!) to create Frida and Audrey on either side of [you with the living legacy that desperately wants arms and legs to go with that heart], I told her I wanted Frida and Audrey’s timelessness marked.


I wanted to do that through the inclusion of modern elements like the ones present in the piece because humanity [and the desire to bring about change and create outside of ourselves] is timeless.

Humans are something else. Our knee-jerk is to help and to allow others to lean on us, but we also allow ourselves to get stuck on the human how…I only know because I do it, too. Less now than I once used to, but still present.

If your knee-jerk is TO do…do more for the highest or greater good and you feel it burning inside you every day, follow it…follow her, follow your creativity, because she will, without a doubt, help you find a way, a time, a schedule, the person, the venue, the funding, the fun you want to infuse into it all to get it going and keep it that way…

How will your creativity decide to express herself?

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. If you want to read more around brand expression, creativity, soulful business success, emotional intelligence and more, feel free to check out the #creativeheroine hashtag. Much love, Creative Heroine!