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How I Look in The MorningISH (photo)

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It’s in the thinking that we separate…

We are more connected than ever, yet we feel world’s away from one another, too.

One reason we feel this way beyond, maybe, that of brains changing with the overuse of tech or screens and our emotional and social intelligence (or more elegant relating ability) being tested in these times is that we genuinely believe that others are doing better, like a lot better, emotionally/physically/spiritually than we are because of the happy/successful/globe trotting/everything matches/”no mess to see here” photos they’re sharing. 

But everyone doing better than you (and especially in all areas) is not anymore true than a group of people genuinely thinking negatively of you (you’re “unprofessional” or less of a beautiful human being) if you post a photo of a tender moment you want to share along with a photo of how you really look in the morning (case in point, this photo of me Sunday is two hours post wake-up, this is *not* how I look freshly up), or a photo that shows your wrinkles or your mid 40-something soft skin in the sunlight (something I’ve noticed the last few months)…

The OR list is long ~

Or how you really BE on a typical Thursday night or when it’s been a hard and stressful week, OR — connected — if you happen to share about your real emotions around loss, divorce, or another life transition that aren’t necessarily the norm on platforms like these, but that everyone reading has felt many, many times, either about those experiences or others.

What we are craving and have been craving for some time — our life? — is being more real or ourselves with others and others being more real and themselves with us; to be in the world as we are in *our* world (or close-ish, shrinking the gap). COMFORTABLE, like ‘plop down on my sofa or my bed and let’s talk like we live similar lives, because, hey, we do.

We do. 

In other words, asking more of ourselves and creating what we want to be a part of virtually, just as we want to be in life beyond the push of a button, change of a filter or wrinkle brush app. 

The virtual realm can act as a wall or barrier, so we get to work to soften it down, to find ways of communicating and connecting that help to alleviate disconnection and a false sense of perfection.

It’s not everyone’s charge or desire and many of us are private people, but I find it fascinating that for those of us who use these platforms TO connect, why aren’t we, then, connecting in all the ways the word implies?

Connection is more than skin deep, it goes beneath and beyond superficial layers.

I challenged us at Creative Heroine to do that (podcast update HERE) ~ to create a new space *within* this space that holds more of each of us, more depth, more, more, more…

The A and B sides are both as much of the real us:

Growing older…real and universal.

Not winning…yup.

Falling down…definitely. 

And sometimes a combination of these things at the same human time.

It’s a brave creative practice to be ourselves, and one that, maybe, when practiced more can make us braver against other odds, harder things or challenges.

I want to keep waking to alllll of that which is universal, to being free of what one thinks or does not think because it’s in the thinking that we separate…

in the feeling 
where we 
come together. 

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

About Mourning Anyone (or anything, really)

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Paige Bradley “Expansion” sculpture 

We can and do mourn when people are still living ~

A conversation today left me staring at the truth around loss (continuing to take you on a bit of a behind-the-scenes of my book here)…

Loss is not solely felt or experienced when someone dies.

It can be experienced every time someone you love changes form. In other words, when a person (your person) feels a long distance away when communication or mutual understanding is not met or is clouded in some way.

This can happen in many different situations —

In particular, I think of addiction and how devastating this can be on those suffering inside of it as well as on the loved ones wanting it to be different, wanting the break to be filled in and to help their loved ones find their way…back to the relationship, back to contribution, back to healthy living, back to working and speaking and loving as a true family unit, and the list goes on.

But almost identical to experiencing a physical death, the pain or grief journey grows and continues when you realize time and time again, that no matter what you do or say or how much you plead or bargain with God, that you do not have the control to bring them back to you (I remember my mind playing tricks on me — wanting to play tricks *with* my mind with my tragic losses in this way). 

So…

so there are many of us walking around with very real feelings of loss…

…many people feeling grief and in mourning, yet maybe not seeing it that way or not allowing themselves to claim it as such, so that they may, in turn, receive the unique love, guidance, support and counsel for those emotions, being able, maybe, to then walk yet another step or another mile being better understood for what they’re going through.

We can and do mourn when people are still living.

The question is — well, actually, I don’t know what the question is. I’m asking if there is one at the moment or if it simply ends (or begins) there.

We mourn when people we love are still here.

♥️

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

p.s. Did you catch the How Good’s This podcast episode about the Creative Heroine Experience? Listen to it HERE.

Can I Get Your Advice?

I’d love to ask you for your advice! 

After the success of the Creative Heroine Experience, I’m re-committing, once again, to assisting you as much as I can via this space, to not simply be or become consumers of content, but action takers. That was a big part of CHE (it’s the only thing that’s worked for me to create the impact, revenue and the brand I currently have…taking a risk and always taking action on my biggest, “craziest” ideas). 

Even if you’re not a client, through the weekly shares, I want to contribute meaningfully to your life and one way to do that is to support you to become a doer, too. Think about and strategize, yes, but not too long. 🙂 

Making fast and aligned decisions is a trait that as self-employed women we need to nurture every day.

Movement Mantra: I am a dedicated, daring and delighted doer. 

Here are my questions to you:

1. Would you like to receive the weekly MGI content via written form, video or audio (what’s easiest and most enjoyable for you?). For some, one is more actionable or spark-producing than the other(s). 

2. What specific topic around business, brand/expression or life is most valuable and supportive to you right now as far as designing your life of happiness and prosperity? I’d love to know, both for the weekly shares as well as for the complimentary trainings we will continue to create for you and the community. 

Tell me! I want you to receive what you need. Simply reply back and I’ll respond. 🙂

Thank you so much. I so appreciate your thoughts.

Until next time, enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

My Business Model (it may help you)

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I’ve received messages, ahas and comments from the ladies present at The Creative Heroine Experience all week and notes like this one today only continue to confirm that there’s plenty of room for the generosity model in our lives and businesses.

That’s a big part of the reason I created the totally FREE CHE and the Greater Good Parties (I’ll be in SF and NYC in May for GGPs. Psst, if you’d like to be invited, let me know) ~> I created them (and more) to show that generosity (and doing things differently than the online marketing world, for example) is not only possible but necessary so that flow is reinstated in one’s life.

When you have a vision (a feeling and an energy!) around what you know is not only doable but necessary, there are many, many others feeling the same way who will be grateful you followed the spark and your creative flow on it.

Follow that kind of “crazy”. Your business will still make money, I promise. You will impact more people. I know it. You will feel a new sense of purpose and joy. You better believe it. 🙂 

Generosity puts the humanity back into our human work…because at the end of the day, we are in the people business.

Stay out of fear and inside possibility. That’s what CHE was all about and what YOU as a woman who moves from problem to solution, is all about. 

Thank you, Creative Heroine Experience for being an idea that came through me, but wasn’t mine, and, instead, was created by everyone present in the room that day.

How will you allow yourself to give (and receive) today?

Enjoy your business, enjoy your life! 

Life is good,

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Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur