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What Happens When You’re “Extra” (all parts of you)

A way to know or be in relationship with the deepest parts of yourself, (as well as be more genuinely fulfilled which most or many of us are searching for in this world of celebrity, influencing and short attention spans) is to authentically pursue your calling.

This could mean as a side thing, paid or unpaid thing, or a larger thing…whatever works right now and in the now that will come in a year or 10 from now…

IT (the high call) doesn’t judge the time you give it or how much money you get paid to do it, but do give some THING to it, water it, so it can start bearing real fruit (joy, peace, meaning) in your life.

This thing that calls you, however softly, and maybe not even daily yet, can come folded into or be a passion of yours, it can come wrapped in the blanket of service or flow inside the river of creativity that won’t stop oozing out of you and onto the lists and plans you make on paper.

But leaning into it…doing it and not just once, but consistently, is where the fulfillment lies that you feel a stronger longing for as time passes.

If you don’t know where to start, move here…

Express more of the whole, real you 

inside more of all of your relationships, including the beast known as your industry (in each industry and in most relationships, we are only ever expressing maybe [maybe] half of who we are).

Begin sharing that person…sharing the personality and the gifts and the primary talents and desires to help others that come naturally to her/him…by giving them an outlet, you allow the whisper of that call to become louder, unmistakable.

The deepest part of yourself that you get to know when you do work that means something to you is where joy and peace come from. 

This is how you become, not only maybe highly fulfilled, but how you make life highly expressive, too…your high art.

So, start ~ start with the expression of the full range of you because it is only when you share who you REALLY are that more is revealed.

(This is a real world, working thing).

#creativeheroine

#brandofwoman

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur

The Greater Good Party

     

YOU’RE NOT BOUND. Don’t hold back.

Two years ago when we took a walk around the ol’ block and I told Josh my idea, I said, almost jokingly, that this ongoing gathering, community or party I was thinking about would be a sort of “support group”.

#greatergoodparty
#ggp

We laughed about how serious that felt (it was post election), it was true and there was more…

Twelve Greater Good parties later and having loved up on LA, Austin, NYC and SF with spoken word, song and meaningful speakers who have brought stories of optimism, purpose and passion to life, what was truly sparked from that simple walk and my deep desire is a community that has:

• Taken a fresh look at how we “party” and created a new way to do it that leaves you high for the entire weekend (what a couple people shared after this past Sunday’s party, photos are from the night).

• Taken us off our phones to actually seeeee and hearrrr one another. We have such important things to talk about!

• Changed the way we drop in with strangers (and friends). The only surface you’ll find at GGP HQ or any GGP anywhere are likely things like marble, carpet or wood in the loving rooms and kitchens.

• Moved many throughout the two plus years to get after their passion-turned-high calling (ie, one of the speakers Sunday, prolific reality producer and talent manager (and much more), Kristin Giese, wrote and published her book after feeling the pull here at GGP two years ago (see video). Others shared, too, that the GGP supported them in finally moving on their passion or purpose project, higher call and/or business.

• Motivated people to use their creativity, their romance/marriage, their time, their loving energy etc for great good.

• Supported the proverbial light ~ that which can only be brought to the world by art and artists bringing their voices, sung or spoken etc (!) to more people. (We start each connection with spoken word/poetry and song to help people more deeply land inside the space).

• Helped people quiet or transform the doubt to more readily connect to the part of themselves who dare…dare to live bigger or louder, dare to care, dare to more fully use their creativity.

• Been co-created by now hundreds of different people who have walked through the doors (we make sure that each party has approx. 30-40% new people/friends…we were clear from day one that this was not a party just for our friends, but for your friends and their friends and their spouses and their neighbors and their neighbor’s neighbor ~ inclusive not exclusive which, to us, is true community and it was intentionally created that way to have each participant breathe life to their own optimistic endeavor).

• Been inspired to create their own positively and creatively charged (and beautifully poetic and warm) salon nights and community experiences.

• [Connected to it all] brought people much insight, ahas, lightness, comfort, humor, camaraderie, understanding and support (group). 🙂

A huge thanks to everyone who has attended over the last 2+ years. You’ve helped us co-create since the beginning and we are so grateful.

And thank you again to the talented Kristin GieseVish ChatterjiJosh Mandel and Rachel Kann who blew the house/hearts wide open on 10/20.

Kristin, Vish & Rachel’s magnificent books:

Kristin‘s book, (un)verified: Two Strangers. One Crazy Lie.: https://amzn.to/2N0jcMG

Vish’s book, The Business Casual Yogi: Take Charge of Your Body, Mind and Career: https://amzn.to/31AclyD

Rachel’s book of poetry, How to Bless the New Moon: https://amzn.to/2N0f4fv

And Rachel‘s book release party: https://bit.ly/32CEhmR

If you have a passion or purpose project or high call you know you must return soon ☎️, take the first bigger-sized move in that direction (micro likely won’t cut it right now) and once you start, know that one of the most important things you can do is keep following the feeling.

That directed or enlivened feeling you feel each time you work on it and get it out there? That’s your fuel. The way others are also feeling as a result of you finally putting sustained gusto into it? Follow that, too.

Keep following the feeling until it’s SOME thing.

Right now, that project or calling need not pay the bills. It’s not the point right now (and may never be?) and the you whose plugged in already knows it.

Stop putting the old rules of an industry, of your title or what you’ve been known for or what your business has been on something that is not to be boxed or labeled…

This thing, your thing? It’s a breathing, living one, not bound by the same rules, identity or paths taken a decade or two ago or even one yesterday ago.

The point is this: keep doing your “main” thing *and/but* do this, too. For something as important as this, you will flex time to be able. You will.

Whatever you do, don’t hold back on you, that connected and feeling part of you, *as well as* the other humans who need to feel themselves more during this time in the world’s/ society’s existence, too.

There are more parties coming by those wanting to host in the South Bay here in the LA area and more on the west side, too (one in December and one in January).

Also, if you have ideas for new cities in 2020, we’d love to hear them. We will help you get the talent secured, plan the entire evening with you and show up to help you present that connected experience to your friends and your friends’ friends and on.

Life is good and there’s much good to do. What will you choose?

To watch clips of the brilliant speakers, please enjoy them HERE.

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Thank you so much for your words Alan, Brett, Sheila & Vivianne👬👭:

Michelle and Josh,

Attending your Greater Good Party was a deeply profound and inspiring experience.

The openness of the people and the amazing transformations they have experienced by you asking one simple question blew my mind, my wife and I have not stopped speaking about it since we left the event.

The power of being with like-minded people in person and those individuals having a place to speak their deepest truth about what they really want in life created a container that perpetuated others to just claim their dreams.

It was perfect timing for Jolette and I as we are just starting new endeavors that have been “back burner” things for many years.

The simplicity of the process is so powerful that Jolette and I are inspired to share this.

Thank you Michelle and Josh for creating this magnificent environment of possibility. You truly are serving the Greater Good!

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Hey guys,

I’m still buzzing from last night. I came home and stayed up till 3am writing cause there was no way I could sleep.

To try to describe a Greater Good Party to someone is like trying to describe the concept of light to someone who has lived in complete darkness their entire life. Words and comparisons simply fail to explain something that needs to be witnessed to be understood. However, you could make the same argument for love, and that hasn’t stopped anyone from trying to put it into words for as long as we’ve had language, so I’m just gonna go for it.

Walking into a GGP event is like entering into a room of strangers who have been routing for you your entire life. Unlike the world we’ve come to know, you are happily welcomed by every person you come in contact with. You’ll find yourself in conversation with someone and come to realize that neither of you even know the person whose living room you are standing in. This awkward shared revelation that neither of you know what the fuck this thing is even about becomes the first of many bonds that will be formed that night. All you know is that your friend, or co-worker, or parent, or child said you NEEDED to go and now you’re there.

And just as the panic starts to set in, they introduce the first speaker of the night….who does spoken word poetry. Now you’re really confused. No one in the history of pyramid selling has gone “I know how we’ll hook ‘em in! Spoken word poetry!”. Your hands unclench and you lower your defense wall a little.

Over the next couple hours, as speaker after speaker take their turn, it becomes clear. It’s not a sale pitch. It’s not a cult. It’s a collective. A collective of creatives who still believe that good exists in this world. Who want to inspire and be inspired by others. Who know they have a gift, but are unsure if they are ready to share it. Who, despite all the negative, divisive, awful things the news pounds into our heads everyday, still have hope in people. The only thing they are trying to sell is the idea that we all have the power to help each other.

By the end of the night, the room is literally vibrating. If you could bottle the energy that is created in those few hours, you could power every Tesla in Los Angeles for a week.

When it finally ends, people don’t so much leave as they do float out the door.

These simple little parties, these gatherings of strangers and new friends, they’ve changed my entire life. The way I view the world. The way I view myself and what I am capable of. They’ve confirmed I was right not to lose my faith in humanity. That there are other people out there, lots of people, who take joy in the lifting up of others. And that as much as the world would like us to believe we are all in competition with each other up this mountain of life, the fastest way to the top is actually to climb as a group. To catch each other as we fall. To tell the person behind you how to navigate the tricky bits and push each other to do things you didn’t think you were capable of.

We call the Greater Good a party, but only because there is no word that exists that really captures its true essence. And as outrageous and hyperbolic as any attempt I’ve made sounds, it’s still not even close to the explaining the magic that happens in that space.
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Having thousands of friends on social media cannot and will not ever replace having in-person connections. The Greater Good party provides a loving space to foster relationships. It’s a place to spread the light and positivity that is frequently lacking in our day to day lives. It’s so rare for me to be able to spend time in a room full of like-minded and like-hearted people, and to go home knowing that I have new friends. Regardless of age, ethnicity, or social status, everyone at the GGP is equal because our hearts are all the same. I’m genuinely grateful for each and every person I meet at your gatherings. I often get teary-eyed as I drive home from your house as I’m reminded of the good in the world, and that I’m able to contribute to it with all of you. Together, we shine so bright. Thank you for being such a wonderful host and bringing us all together.
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Yesterday I was one of the lucky people who got to attend the GREATER GOOD PARTY! Imagine yourself in a room full of conscious caring people that just want the best for each other and the world. Not only that, but truly are taking action for that to happen and help each other. It was a night filled with learning! Great insightful speakers with books I can’t wait to read, inspiring and deep poetry and spoken words by Josh Mandel and Rachel Kann and all the while MCd by the hosts and visionaries of this wonderful event Michelle and Josh. A night I will never forget.

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur

Creating YOUR Life in Mid-Life

I’ve had two things alive in me the last couple weeks, and they can be summarized in the (my) friendship experiment and inside my relationship with my life coach (it’s not who you think it is). 

If you’ve been my friend or following me for any length of time, you know that I’ve talked about both of these as true and present (or as truth) in my life…

One thing that has continued to add to my joy, wanderlust as well as my healing has been diving back into my friendships in a way that I didn’t take or feel I had as much time to when Nolan was very young (I did nurture close friendships, for sure, but not in as conscious of a way as I’m doing it now, ahem, after two tragic deaths *and* with Nolan off to college in four years, poof).

I think some or many of us fall off the best friend wagon a little bit (or a lot bit) when we become mothers. In fact, I remember when Nolan was two or three years old saying to a couple friends: “I used to be such a good friend…calling, planning things and generally being so available….”

But with the joys and fullness of motherhood (boy did I love (and still DO love) being just with Nolan and Josh!), Nolan’s neurological issues (the stress that brought) and running a business that was growing fast, both on the freelance and entrepreneurial side, my focus and awareness was elsewhere — was right there, right here, with each of those things/people.

Once my brother and mom died, six and four years ago respectively, I was also, once again, focusing more on all the parts of me that needed me, as well as the parts of my immediate family and family of origin that needed me, too.

But for the last two plus years or so, it‘s felt amazing to recommit and feel, truly feel, a commitment or devotion through the actions taken to dive into my female relationships in a renewed way. #friendshipexperiment 

To fly or drive to them, to host them, to gather them, to plan with them, to cook or clean for them, to mail gifts or cards, to keep an ongoing conversation through text, email or phone (as much as you can anyway with still full lives), to help them inside their own healing, to listen more intently, to prioritize lunches, dinners, adventure, trips, or good cries — to make them important (are they ever) and, therefore, continue to make the most important flow, female-centric parts of my own self important, too. 

There’s an ebb and flow with the number of hours we all have, of course, but overall, I’m happy to be more aware now, as I was years before, of how these relationships feed me and how I, too, feed them.

There is nothing quite like the deep bonds created and nurtured with female friends. And I’ve had the pleasure to keep dear friends from all parts, all moves and all seasons to plug into and be the plug for, too.

Side story: I remember one of my first longer trips when Nolan was in kindergarten or younger, when he asked me why I had to go (he was sad).

I brought him close and hugged him, then asked him an important question back. Nolie, what’s your favorite part of school? (I knew his answer). 

Recess, he said. 

Yeah, recess is so fun! See, when mama goes on a work trip or out with a friend, I told him, that’s part her recess, just like enjoying time with you is. 🤸🏽‍♂️ I’ll be back sooo fast and I LOVE bringing home my silliest self…don’t I come back from my trips even more silly? 

His response: yeahhh…(mood had lightened a bit). 🥰

As #mylifecoach got on in years and definitely now at 14 (have learned books and books and soul and soul from this guy), I’ve done even more traveling, both with friends and on my own, personally and for work.

I joked with Josh this morning that once Nolan gets just a tad bit older and starts going to parties though and/or starts driving, my mama heart and body will want to stay put more. I can feel it already. 

Another thing I‘ve realized talking to good friends inside this same season is how much more “parenting“, or should we call it nurturing, listening, creativity and attentiveness (but boy that creativity inside these teenage years!), I get to tap into during this independent and more internal age. 

I love it and I wouldn’t have it any other way, AND I laugh with friends — gosh, as parents, if we thought family (or our own individual replenishing time) was important back in the day or if we thought we were keeping them alive and happy at nine months old or two years old, this is a new penthouse level. ♥️

I’ve come to know this deeply, too, for both myself, my friends and my clients: each of us at this stage (or best **before**) needs to begin or *continue* to consciously and consistently create our own lives and heed callings, whatever that may mean to us, so that when they leave, we don’t feel…left…

We birthed them to let them eventually go, but no one told us, hey, as you enjoy them and help *them* create their own lives, create your own thing and your own individual life, too, but that’s exactly what’s important — exactly.  

When they leave, that’ll be a time of a brand of grief and of our own looking inward time, but the more we HAVE an internal life, having gotten to know ourselves, our passion(s), have a vision, *relationships* and a community built, the more they, the “kids”, will continue to learn from us and the more WE will feel settled, grounded and excited for the new relationship ahead with our new (and they will be awesomely new) adult kids.

Josh and I went to a group meditation this morning while our guy, the world’s citizen, was fast asleep and as we drove there, all I could think was this ~ I’m grateful for the experience of this life and of getting to know myself, my child, my female relationships and my husband in a way that feels like at the end of my life, I will say, that was good, I’m glad I did that…I’m glad I made those choices and gave myself the gift of nurturing each relationship, the one with myself always included, as they each needed to be nurtured and when and how it felt so right. 

#friendshipexperiment

#mylifecoach

#brandofwoman

#creativeheroine

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur 

Renewing Vows to Family

The other day as Nolan and I were filling the honey jar with with our intentions for how we want to continue stepping into our relationship, one that is changing rapidly, I realized something.

As I was mid sentence writing “..supporting each other as we each continue to grow and change”, it struck me that we (society) talk so much about our kids changing and growing (we plan for it, pay for it, expect it and comment on it all the time), that we hardly acknowledge the fact that, we too, are changing or that we’d *like* to change/learn more or be different/evolve — in essence, not be the same we were yesterday. 

We also hardly acknowledge how much we can actually do something different with our kids than what was done with us and share (more) with them around how we, too, wish to shed a skin, learn, attempt, try…growwww (in July after my vision quest, Nolan saying, “Mama, over the last year, I’ve realized that you’re more than my mama” was a big realization of all of the above for me). That, in addition to other things, it’s invaluable to share and keep sharing!

I am you. You are me.

We are a family of humans figuring it out and on that note we are not ever just one thing or one title. 

Yes, as older or taller humans, we are still students, just as they are but we don’t act like it (we don’t act like students or share these student thoughts with them) very often, at least not so they can really hear or see.

In addition to being the one with more life experience and showing them the ropes or how to solve problems…

Let them see and hear you! 

Tell them you’re not sure!

Remind them they’re not the only one who is nervous!

Share genuinely when you feel you need support or how you, too, doubt or don’t have the words…

Today as compared to yesterday, for example, we may be the “same”, as in that someone with similar values to the previous self (or similar values, but, maybe, more deeply rooted now), but we are not the exact same in all the other ways there are to be a whole person. 

I am not the same person I was in this photo. Though the woman standing here, who renewed her vows to both husband and son (and son also read his “vows” to us, OMG ,so sweet) had very similar family values and a spiritual connection, much has shifted, cleared, been understood and NOT been understood…yet (-;.

As families, we should expect, talk about and make room for the entire family’s evolution and feel more connected as a result of leveling the playing/living field. 

May we, as parents, resist the urge to focus so much, too much and/or *only* on the child changing to having more conversations about how the entire family is changing because individually each person is wanting to do so and, also, without “trying” also naturally doing so…and yeay! Yeay that we are all similar in that way ~ that we are all making movement… 

Don’t leave yourself out of the change equation. We can help steward our kid’s growth by, yes, growing ourselves, but by also letting them see and hear us do it. 

How do you want to change or better yourself? What do you want to make a deeper commitment to learning? What is still part of the unknown for you? What more can you share about it all?

[Machu Picchu, 2014]

Make happiness your business by creating your authentic brand…enjoy your business, enjoy your life!

Life is good,

 

 

 

Michelle Ghilotti
Success Designer, Brand Activator & Social Entrepreneur